Hey, anon!This is a heck of a complicated question, so I’m going to try to answer it to the best of my ability!! Here goes~I have spent a lot of my “adult” life in relationships. Some of them went pretty well, and some of them didn’t go so well at all. Either way, right, now, I’m single. I am a person who sort of has “blinders” when I am in a monogamous relationship – I don’t really think about other people at all. I have also been in poly relationships, but whether you are poly or monogamous, there is a lot of commitment that goes into a relationship. I pour my heart and my soul and a lot more into any relationship I’m in, and looking back on some of them, I think… perhaps we had rushed things.When I am not in a committed relationship, things aren’t so cut and dry. “Do you like someone” - that’s a loaded question, in a way. Even when I’m in a relationship, I have a ton of different kinds of love for different people. I care deeply - even though I seem like a very logical person, it’s still very much in my nature. So basically what I’m saying is that… I like spending time with people, I’m attracted to people’s intelligence, their behaviors, their passions. At risk of sounding like an alien, humans are amazing and fascinating and I am an “outgoing introvert” - I recharge alone, but I like being with people. And I want to take people out on dates, spend time with them - no strings attached.But NOT because I don’t ever want there to be commitment. Call me a romantic, but what I want in a relationship more than anything is to fall so hard and so long for someone that by the time I finally ask them out (or maybe vice versa), It’s because I can’t imagine not being together and I don’t want to see anyone else. I think, sometimes, we’re so desperate for something that we forget to enjoy the build up. While I’m single, I just want to make people happy, and cherish my time with others. Whether it’s a date, or friends hanging out, or anything in between. I won’t jump into anything with someone - I won’t fixate on one person, not right now. Because when it does finally come to that point, I want to make sure that we’re both ready.
