#neighbour problems

[weasley-detectives]

I've been having a pretty grim time of it with one of my neighbours. An incident last night has left me pretty shaken up and I hate how weak and guilt ridden I feel.

To put things in context, a few months ago there was a fire next door. I was in my living room when I noticed the fire engines outside, so I messaged our block group chat with something like "um, fire??" Before adding to the message I figured it was better to get off my arse and physically check on my neighbours. The woman next door was visibly shaken because the fire was through the wall from her apartment, so we went outside. The neighbour whose flat was on fire was in tears and we tried to comfort her. 10 minutes later, I went to add more info on our block's group chat and my neighbour's boyfriend was raging at me for scaring him. And I mean swearing, calling me all sorts, telling me to fucking think, that I'm an arsehole etc etc. And it didn't matter how many times I apologised, he just kept swearing at me. I felt awful that I'd scared him, but there was a fire and everything had happened so quickly.

Cut to last night. I had a Christmas party. My neighbours were both invited, and while one came her sweary boyfriend declined. Now, I've never had parties. This was my big flat warming/Christmas party and it was busy, but not booming loud. But at one point my flatmate, her boyfriend and I were talking for 5 minutes out in the close. Sweary neighbour comes out screaming and swearing at me. Get inside you fucking arseholes, fuck you fuck this, fuck everything. Again I apologised profusely, but he didn't care, he just kept swearing and started squaring up a bit to my flatmate's boyfriend. I told him we were going inside and we'd be quiet, but could he please stop swearing at us as it was really aggressive and intimidating. He said he didn't fucking care and to fuck off.

This is someone I used to call a friend. According to his girlfriend (who was at my party) he's been stewing in a rage because the postman and amazon delivery guy keeps ringing his doorbell to deliver my packages (something he actually told them they could do) and that's why he's blown up at me. But he's done so much to bug me over the years and I've never blown up at him like that. I've been woken up by him coming in drunkenly several times and had to help him into his flat because he's been so drunk. He constantly undermines me and is very mansplainy. And now his behaviour towards me is just so aggressive I'm genuinely scared of him. I'm even scared of getting anything delivered now, because no matter how many times I tell the postmen and amazon guys not to ring his doorbell, they still do it. Problem is, I have ME/CFS and I struggle to shop in town, so I need to get a lot of shopping online. I just don't know what to do, so I guess I needed a good vent.

[gemmalosesherjelly]

I've gone from stressed to pissed

I haven't spoke to my neighbour since he confronted me and I had a breakdown, but since then my bf has heard him speaking to two seperate neighbours complaining about the noise. I had my carpet guy come measure for me yesteday and should be getting a quote soon. Hopefully with the view to try and fit this week. With underlay which meets the new building reg soundproof standards.

I am literally doing everything I can. In fact legally, I'm doing more than I have to. But I what to be considerate too. But if he's gonna start bitching about me then he's bringing on a war. I've already told one of the neighbours about how his behaviour lead to me having a mental breakdown. She's heard it from him too. And she was on my side. So if he wants to start a smear campaign fine. I'll win. You made a woman half your age cry outside in front of everyone.

Oh and also I checked my contract. I am allowed pets as long as they don't "cause continuing nuisance" and actually only singles out dogs and birds. If he believes they're a nuisance the onus is then on him to prove it by going to environmental health. Which I will gladly tell him to do if he continues to complain once the carpets are down. And at that point I'll be going to citizens advice and telling him any communication between us will now be written. And if he bangs again I'm recording it. I'm also recording every conversation we have from this point on. And if he continues to harass me I will report him for it. He can pretend to be all nice to my face after complaining and saying we won't fall out but I'm done.

Yes I'm still stressed. Yes I'm still upset. No I don't want it to have to go down this legal route. But I'm a lot more willing to fight than I was. And I'm royally pissed off about it now. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned 🖕

[tpbrachel]

My next door neighbour woke me up by blasting bass music again 🫤, she's got her caravan doors open so idk if she's cleaning the place or what she'll probably be doing it for hours on end today (11am-6pm) and I'll be overwhelmed with anxiety all day from this so great 😒.

Being subjected to noise pollution is not just damaging for mental health but physical health as well apparently cos of the stress levels, and it doesn't just effect humans it effects animals as well she's got a dog and I feel so sorry for it being forced to listen to this shit.

The old site supervisor and the new site supervisor won't do anything about it because they're all mates so it's extremely biased. I've complained about her twice now and fuck all's been done, last summer when she was playing music constantly I was told by the old site supervisor I'm "making a big deal out of nothing" and the old site supervisor lied saying "she plays music so what's the big deal?" I've lived in this shithole nearly 2 years the old site supervisor is my other neighbour who lives behind me with her husband and I swear down I've never heard her play any music at all she just played favourites and blanked me on this issue because the music isn't being played late at night therefore its fine? Noise pollution is 100% illegal if this bitch lived in a council flat she'd be out on her arse my boyfriend's dad's girlfriend's brother got evicted from his flat for being noisy but she gets special treatment cos this is a caravan site and it's off grid.

I feel like all I do is complain on here but I've got nowhere else to turn to, I'm on the phone with citizens advice to talk about my housing options me and my boyfriend are trying to get this privately rented flat but he's gotta undergo a credit check and idk what else the landlord will ask for so there's a high chance we won't get it.

Anyway rant over hope everyone's having a nice day 🙂.

[tpbrachel]

Vent post:

So yeah I told the site supervisor about my next door neighbour blasting music and she told her not to but now the site supervisor has shamed me on the neighbour WhatsApp group saying that "if tenants have a problem with neighbours making noise talk to them themselves this isn't a playground you're adults I've got enough shit to deal with" so she's made me feel bad about asking her to speak to this girl about the noise even though I have mental health issues and PTSD from having shitty noisy neighbours for years in other places I've lived in 🫤. I'm not sure what to say this is effecting my mental health terribly I'm struggling to write on my other blog for people and i feel bad that I'm behind I'm half tempted to make a post to apologise for the delays of writing fics it just feels really uncalled for that she's done this when it took a lot in me to message her in the first place. I've basically been shamed for struggling with my mental health and told to crack on but like I'm not my friend's dad I don't scream at neighbours or start fights I just want to live and let live I struggle to speak to people and with social anxiety as well these are not made up symptoms and for a woman who walks around wearing "help our heroes" tshirts you'd think she'd understand mental health awareness I told her what I've been diagnosed with back in January (BPD, depression etc) so she's fully aware I just idk..I feel the worst a human being can feel right now I feel like I'd be semi relieved if I was evicted even though it would be shit it's also effecting my boyfriend's mental health 😭😭

[tpbrachel]

Had a bit of a crap week a neighbour on the caravan WhatsApp group accused my cat of going in his caravan and laying on his bed he spoke to me like shit telling me to keep him out even though it wasn't my cat it was someone else's cat but because my cat Galaxy is blackish/brown he looks identical to this other cat called Greg who's lived in the park for years so I've had to leave the group and I'm fucking fuming that a man thinks its acceptable to speak to a woman like that especially in this day and age, when I told the site manager I was shocked and disgusted all she could say was he's a good bloke he just gets "feisty when he's upset" making excuses for shit tenants yet again like the arsehole behind me who shouts and slams his van door. This bellend isn't the only person who's got gripes with his neighbours FFS the guy behind me as well as being noisy as fuck and waking me and my bf up late at night every other Friday smokes weed and because I live inches away from him it comes through my windows and my caravan gets hot boxed so I can't have my windows open even if its hot but I'm not going on the group and using abusive language trying to start fights with people over it its so immature. I need to leave this place I've had enough I didn't even do anything and i got verbally abused, absolute bollocks mate.

[watercolourferns]

I'm so frustrated, the downstairs neighbour's mom hogs the washer, we haven't been able to wash like we normally do because she's constantly washing clothes and very little batches... like 4 to 6 items on the highest water level... No wonder the water bill comes so fucking expensive, and the rest of us pay the price because the landlady has to up our rent to compensate...

[the-better-rainbow-unikitty]

Someone in the flat above mine is pacing angrily and a part of me does want them to stop, but the bigger part just wants to know what's the drama

[onemoremoodyboy]

Neighbour problems

My next door neighbours have just been getting louder since Covid

I thought it was just because I was home more but no. There’s now an office next to my bedroom now and I can hear just about every word from that office. I didn’t like waking up to a morning meeting.

They also have new speakers for the tv, I swear everything in there entertainment room bounces sound. There kid is also a gamer, I don’t mind I am as well but put a head set on I don’t care to hear what game you’re playing and I don’t need to listen to you swear at everyone!

I want to talk to them but my parents are old, going def and are quite loud them selves, we also have never had the best real with them. So I don’t feel like I can just go over and complain 

Looks like I’m just going to have to live with it and be passive aggressive. Play loud music, let my door slam on the common wall, anyone got more suggestions