It's really funny to me that some think Esme was sincere in wanting to make up with Trina and Joss so much so that now Joss apparently deserves to have a sex tape publicized without her consent because she gave as good as she got with Esme. If Esme was really trying to turn a new leaf with Trina and Joss then she would have pulled out that phone she was carrying around in her bag and explained how she was going to use the sex tape to blame Trina and try to destroy the girls' relationship.
Let's not forget who started this feud and animosity between all of them, Esme. Probably because of her jealousy of their friendship with each other as well as with Spencer. And the person putting Trina in danger is Spencer because his attention to Trina is what Esme is reacting to and plotting against. Even though Joss was a bit too aggressive during her conversations with Trina and Esme, I took it as her defending her friend against Nelle 2.0 and advising her friend that she deserves better treatment from Spencer. It's just that Joss is a way more confrontational type of person whereas Trina is not. Because of their different personalities, let them fight and argue about how they want to handle the Esme situation. Which I hope is where this story is going rather than dumbing down Joss to ever believe Trina would video tape her having sex.