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Kindness is free

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You seem like a smart person, can I ask for advice? I have someone that I am friends with online. All of a sudden, they’ve just stopped responding to my messages. I’m confused because I didn’t do anything wrong. What should I do to approach a situation like that?

Oh anon, I am so sorry because I have no idea how long this was sitting in my inbox. Tumblr has been giving me a nightmare of a headache recently, I truly hope I didn’t add to your stress by not responding!

I don’t know if I am the best person to give advice on this topic, mainly because I fight my own awkwardness and insecurity when interacting with people. I also am terrible at things like DMs on Twitter, messages on Discord, and in the past couple of weeks, messages here on Tumblr.

I think that the best way to handle it is the old thought, “it’s not me, it’s you.” From my own standpoint, I deal with anxiety and I have had to train myself to remember that 1) people are busy, 2) sometimes people aren’t responding for their own reasons (for example, I am emptying my inbox now because of Tumblr issues and because I, frankly, just survived my first set of holidays without a family member who I loved dearly), 3) sometimes people are anxious and awkward in their own right and don’t know what to say. Anyone who follows me knows that I speak in a lot of words, but most of the time I don’t know how to start a conversation at all. (And don’t get me started on how bad I am at discord lol)

When it comes down to it, you are right, it probably isn’t you and there is no reason to take it personally until that person tells you differently. My best guess is that it is something going on in the other person’s life, and if it is someone you really care about, wait it out a bit. It also doesn’t hurt to throw out a “you’re probably super busy, but I’m here when you aren’t!” to reassure them that they won’t be met with instant criticism when they come back.

You’re already a really good friend for seeking advice on what to do, instead of lashing out at your absentee buddy. I admire that because a lot of people wouldn’t. Good luck, anon, I hope you hear back from them soon!!

#answered ask #nerd advice #I am not that smart so I am winging it #good luck sweet anon

I don’t talk about my personal life much…. But I was in a relationship for 12 years that ended nearly 6 years ago and I’ve had no luck since then. I don’t want to live the rest of my life without a relationship. I want to have kids and a legacy. I’m also a huge nerd and I’d prefer to meet another nerd. But I’m limited in my resources and I have a chronic condition or two. I’d like any advice that can be given. Thank you and Bless You

#nerdsover30 #nerd love #nerd advice #relationships advice #infodump

How Not to Suck at Watching Movies

Alright fellow nerds, I’ve had enough. Really, what do you expect out of movies anymore?

I’ll be the first to admit that I am pretty forgiving when it comes to critiquing movies. I enjoyed Episode I, BvS, Warcraft and now Suicide Squad. I look for the things that I find entertaining and I don’t allow the terrible parts to get to me. If you don’t like a movie, I will totally support your right to that opinion. The thing that prompted me to write this post is the disgusting amount of vitriol that people spew when it comes to movies made from a pre-existing fan base.

All the flaming leads me to believe one thing. You, as a viewer, were unable to step out of your preconceived notions of what the characters, story, or movie should be. Let me tell you something about art. Take the same piece of art (whether it be painting, sculpture, comic book, novel, or movie) and give it to 100 people, and you will get back 100 variations of what those people took away from said art piece. Art is subjective. A very large team of people put their hearts and souls into making a film. Opinions of what or how something should be portrayed have great potential to be drastically different from your own.

This is where the whiny fan-boys and girls fail at watching movies. You limit you imagination to what you have taken away from your favorite comics and novels. You go into the theater with those narrowly limited notions and are expectedly disappointed. I’m sure you wanted it to be good but were disappointed none the less. Nerd Rage Activate!!! Guess what? The movie wasn’t made specifically for you and your very specific concept of what someone else’s work should be. That’s really what you are saying when you whine about how everything was ruined. Time to check your entitlement.

Here’s some more reality for you. Hollywood will never make a fandom movie just for the fans. Profit is the only thing that they care about, so why make a movie that a small(ish) group of people are going to love? Why limit your customer base? That’s why you see characters and plot lines watered down and simplified. The big studios want as many people to buy tickets, so they create films for a broad audience. This methodology often fails unfortunately to the dismay of fans of the source material. I know, this sucks and is a hard fact to swallow. I don’t like it either, but what can you do about it? Unless you are Scrooge McDuck and can finance a movie on your own, there’s not much you can do about it.

I’m not saying that its not possible for a fandom movie to be made and not be successful. Nolan’s Batman trilogy and Jackson’s Lord of the Rings are great examples of that. People seem to forget though there was a fair amount of bitching about those films too. Also, I am not saying that you have to love every fandom movie ever made either. Isn’t it better to have a movie made about your fandom than to not have one made at all? At least you saw something brought to reality, right? Chances are its not going to be perfect or exactly what you wanted anyway. I am willing to be that there are people out there that did love the movie that you just flamed like an insufferable, entitled twit.

My advice to you: Approach movies based on existing fandoms with an open mind. Shrug off the things that you think they got wrong or could have done better. Try to enjoy the hard work that well over a hundred people or so worked on. Stop saying that they ruined it and feeling betrayed.

With so much negativity in the world already, do we really need to complain so vigorously about something that was meant to be entertaining? The internet is too full of negativity as it is. Try not to suck at watching movies.

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