#no epidural

[dionevogler]

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(happy international women's day!! happy birthday women 🩷)

[cleric-will]

Don't understand people who like the show but aren't invested in the party. Like what do you mean you don't care about them they're all my children

[ijusgothere]

August 1, 2021

Hi! Guess what?! I had my baby boy! He’s here, healthy and happy! I’m such a proud mom! Can you tell? Lol. I was in labor for 3 days but I was in active labor for 12 hours, without an epidural, woah can you say painful. But it was all worth with, he came on his actual due date which everyone thinks is so crazy but I knew he would. I’m so happy we have him. My boyfriend and I love him so very much, he’s our reason to push harder and work harder. My boyfriend even said yesterday that he’s glad we didn’t go through with it. Yeah I am to because even though I’m in pain and still healing and tired out of my freaking mind I wouldn’t trade him for the world. My sweet baby boy! I can’t believe I’ve been writing about him for months and now he’s here. I still miss him being in my belly sometimes. Mostly because he came everywhere with me and because I miss his kicks and nudges. But I love that I get to see him and hold him and kiss him. I hope I’m a good mom, I’ll damn sure try my best! I’ll do anything for my son. But hey besides that my boyfriend and I have been pretty good. He’s such a good dad, but it feels like our relationship changed. Not in a bad way it’s more so there’s 3 of us now so our relationship is based around the baby now. Also my sex drive has come back but we can’t do anything because I’m still healing. I’ll definitely be more careful once I’m able to you know have sex again, I seriously don’t want to be pregnant again. Well not for a few years. Well anyway I can’t believe I’m a mother now, let’s begin this new chapter of my life :3 gotta go

Ps. Lol this is weird but my boyfriend has work in the morning and I went on his phone to sent his alarm so he’ll get up in the morning. After I did that I went to look at his pictures because he has more pictures of our son on his birthdate then I do so I wanted to see all the pictures. They are all so cute besides the pictures of me in pain during labor and right after giving birth. Anyway I went to his recently deleted file and there are videos of him and his ex girlfriend being sexual lmao. I looked at one because I’m nosey and I didn’t get upset. Mostly because I’m the video he said he loved her and she didn’t say it back. She stopped loving him and he was giving her his all. It made me feel bad for him for a second but then I didn’t. If she didn’t do what she did in their relationship I wouldn’t have my son. Also I wasn’t upset because he was in a relationship with her at the time and yes they did have sex and I was also having sex in my relationship before him. But it was just burning in my brain I had to something.

[harryisamilf]

the need to nestle into Harry's bosom, feeling the gentle cradle of my head, the tender strokes on my hair and cheeks, all while he gazes at me fondly

[feministhippiemomma]

Attn: natural birth mommas

Hey ladies! I'm looking for your best advice for an unmedicated labor and delivery. Please message me! TIA ❤️

[thelittleseacow]

Rhys’ birth story, part 1

This is going to get long, I promise.  So for anyone who doesn’t want to see it, well, I have added a ‘read more’ link just so you don’t have to do so!  :)  This will have gross details, so if you’re squeamish, I recommend a skip on this post.

Last Wednesday, I went in to have my weekly midwife appt.  I was tired, in pain (thanks pelvis!) and just so done.  The midwife took one look at me and said, “You’re at 39 weeks.  Are you interested in having a membrane sweep done?”  A membrane sweep is when they insert their fingers between your cervix and the amniotic sac.  It causes the body to release prostaglandins, which jump start labor- if your body is ready for labor.  It sounds bad, and honestly, it wasn’t comfortable.  But you better believe I was ready to try anything to get this baby moving.  The midwife told me I would have contractions afterwards, but that they would likely peter out, and if labor was going to happen, it would be in the next 24 hr.  So, basically just ignore any contractions and go on about my normal day.

Well, I started having contractions by the time I was back out to my car.  They weren’t strong, but they hurt- definitely not Braxton Hicks.  I went home, and spent the afternoon relaxing.  I made chicken and dumplings for dinner, and by the time J made it home, I was having decent contractions, maybe five minutes apart.

By 8 pm, the contractions were definitely uncomfortable, and I was packing up the rest of the things on my list for my labor bag.  I called the midwife at 9pm, and told her the contractions were intense, and 3 min apart.  She said that it would be unusual for a first time mom to be ready for L&D after having the sweep only that afternoon, but to come in when I felt ready.  Well, I didn’t want to be sent home, so I waited it out until 10pm.  By then, I couldn’t talk through the contractions, and my back was On. Fire.  All my labor was back labor, and my midwife had indicated earlier in the day that the baby might be occipital anterior, or sunny side up.  It means his spine was up against mine (still head down), when he should have been face towards  my spine.  It guarantees a more painful labor, and makes it more difficult as well.  There are a few things you can try to get them to flip, but because he was so engaged in my pelvis, the midwife wasn’t sure it would help.  I had said something the previous week to another midwife about the back pressure and pain I was having, and she just chalked it up to my history of back injury.  I was pretty sure it was the baby being sunny side up, though.

Right before we were heading out the door, the rest of my mucus plug came out.  And boy, there was a LOT of it, and a lot of bleeding.  Gross.  The hospital is less than 2 miles away, and as I was getting out of the car, I felt a gush of fluid.  (water breaking!).  J dropped me off so he could go park, and I walked into the front door of the hospital, half bent over.  The security guard took one look at me and called for someone to wheel me up to L&D.  Once he dropped me off, I started signing paperwork, and had to stand up through a few contractions (worrying the check in nurse).  Then my water gushed again, which I told the check in nurse, and that got things moving a bit faster.

I was taken into triage, and by then J was back from parking the car.  There was a lot going on, and I was in a lot of pain.  I told them about the baby probably being OA, and they got me hooked up to a heart rate monitor, contraction and baby heartbeat monitor.  I think they had a really hard time monitoring the baby, a lot because I couldn’t lay flat during the contractions because they hurt so badly.  Let’s just say, also, that birth is not for the faint of heart.  There were fluids flying everywhere, because your amniotic sac rarely bursts all at once, so every time I had a contraction, there was more fluid.  And I was bleeding, everywhere.  And had multiple people up in my cooch.  It was fun.

So, I was 6cm and 80% effaced.  Because I was Group Beta Strep positive (GBS+), and my water had broken, they would have admitted me anyway.  I asked (okay, begged with everything I had) for an epidural, which was the plan to begin with.  J just held my hand and didn’t flinch while I crushed all the bones to dust.  I was so far gone, that a lot after this point becomes a blur.  I was wheeled from triage to a birthing room, and shit got crazy.  They checked me again, (maybe 20 min after the first time), and I was 8 cm.  I had an IV for penicillin put in (again, for the GBS.  They want the baby to get treatment in their system before being born, as the GBS is in the birth canal, and they can contract it on the way out). 

The midwife eventually told me they needed to do an internal heartbeat monitor for the baby, because they were unable to get a consistent reading with the external.  They attached it, and I begged for the epidural a bit more.  The anesthesiologist was with another laboring woman at the time.  And honestly, things moved so fast after this that there probably wasn’t time for it. 

After a few minutes, the midwife and OB came to me and said, “Your baby’s heart rate is too low, and has stayed too low for too long.  We have to get him out, right now.”  Thank God I was out of it.  I look back at that moment right now, and I tear up, because I realize how important it was, even though I didn’t at the time.  I would have panicked if I had been cognizant enough to recognize the situation for what it was.

This got a lot longer than I planned, so part 2 will be up shortly!

[watchingmylittlemonkeygrow]

I want to be someone's Doula

I was thinking about my labor, and I honestly think I couldn't have done a lot of what I did without my doula! She was amazing. Kept me breathing, massaged my hands, feet and back, got me moving, made sure I got to go in the tub even when my daughter had the thing on her head to keep track of her heartbeat, and most importantly help me get through it without getting an epidural!!! The more I think about it, the more I want to be there for someone and help them out through their labor. I want to be someone's doula!!

[hayleyescape]

Anyone planning natural birth?

Or had one or more already?