Listening to “Trying My Best”-Anson Seabra
Dear No One,
I don’t think Father’s Day is fair. I don’t think Mother’s Day is fair either, but I’ll talk about that another time.
For example, some people don’t have dads, or some people have bad dads, or some people have dads that make themselves look good in public. And then everyone criticized the kids of those dads for not celebrating.
Father’s Day (or Mother’s Day) also isn’t fair because they choose to have us, and then the expect we celebrate them. I know the details of how I was created. They didn’t want me, so why celebrate?
And on top of that, my dad is a dick. He missed pretty much everything from August 2006ish (around the time I was 5) to August 2019. Then I came out to him as a trans guy, he seemed supportive until I got back home, and his dickness has shined brightly since. I mean, I’m afraid to come out to him again because I’m afraid to bring it up around him!
He thinks that showing love is spending money. It’s not. Showing love is calling your kid by their name and correct pronouns and talking to them to understand instead of continuously misgendering and deadnaming them and telling everyone behind their back that if they change their last name they’ll be cut out of the will.
Point is, Father’s Day isn’t fair. Some people have great dads. Great for them. But some don’t, and I’m tired of the guilt that comes with being forced to celebrate someone who’s never even told me that he is proud of me. It’s bullshit.
