So idk what it is that draws men to helpless, flighty, emotionally unstable women but that's not me. I don't need a knight in shining armor, I don't need someone to pander to my whims of commitment and I don't need someone who allows them self to be subject to irrelevant emotional baggage that lacks any sense of perspective or self-reflection. This to me isn't the foundation of any healthy relationship. It encourages a toxic subtlety of gender roles that don't do any of us any favors. We need to start holding each other accountable for these bad habits. I am flawed and I have my own shortcomings I'm not saying I'm above this but I have worked hard to try and build myself up to be capable of a healthy relationship. Yet time and time again I have been passed over for another women who panders to a misguided caricature of masculinity by embodying a less than fair myth of femininity. It's the most disheartening experience. not because I'm desperate for love but because I'm desperate for a world where we aren't socialized to be attracted to such destructive ideals. I know attraction is not this simple. I know there's more to it. But if this is even half the story I think we should all be concerned about mentality we buy into. (side note I am not trying to shame anyone with this post. I hope that I haven't harmed anyone by writing this. I just want to understand why something so damaging seems to persist in our environment)
