Mar 30
I hate when I look in the mirror when I'm not binding and it so rudely reminds me that I have big boisterous bongos 💔💔
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I hate when I look in the mirror when I'm not binding and it so rudely reminds me that I have big boisterous bongos 💔💔
a reminder that it is REAL and VALID to be fluid about your feelings towards being misgendered.
there are some days where i could break down in tears, wanting to tear my hair out due to the fact someone saw me as female and not male.
then there are days where i smile and realize. some people arent educated. and that maybe they arent having a good day, and simply didnt pay enough attention when addressing me.
these feelings are REAL and RAW. dont ever feel like you're not valid for feeling one or the other during different time periods. were all different, were all struggling, were all trying, and were all gonna make it. emotions are real.
Sigh
Anyone else feel embarrassed to be trans? Like…I wear my name tag with my preferred name and my trans and pronouns badges on my hat at work and for some reason I feel so embarrassed. Especially because I’m pre T and I don’t even have my gender affirming haircut yet so I literally look like a regular cis girl to everyone. And even when I do get my haircut I fear it’s gonna be so obvious I’m trans and I won’t pass at all.
And then when I go out with my friends and try to dress masc (even if it’s just to feel slightly less dysphoric) I feel embarrassed even then cause I literally just look like a girl who’s a tomboy or something.
I try to deepen my voice at work when speaking to customers and my colleagues and it’s probably so obvious cause I can’t keep up with it for long and my voice ends up pitching anyway. I hate it. I don’t know what to do to help me feel less embarrassed.
my fellow non-binary people I need your help on some struggles I'm having:
-5 years ago was the last time I wore a dress/skirt, it didn't look good but I felt pretty. now I feel like I can't wear a dress/skirt because i am not pretty and I shouldn't be pretty as a more masculine looking person.
-sometimes I think about growing out my hair but every time I decide against it because it would make me look "too" feminine. logically I know that it's a dumb thought but emotionally I am not there yet.
would love to hear your thoughts, experiences or tips!
Tw: this drawing is eyestraining and contains bright colors.
This is my oc, it represents the struggles of the people whom fall under the trans umbrella and the nonbinary umbrella. Also the struggles of people addicted to a specific thing. No matter what, basically struggling with addiction. (whoever draws them needs to put the object they are addicted with on the end of the tail. Ex: devices, dr*gs, alcohol etc.)
I was planning to call them "My Dear Ruthless Rage" or "Darling Seething Rage"
You guys decide, poll under.
Which one should be their name
My Dear Ruthless Rage (MDRR)
Darling Seething Rage (DSR)
another (write under comments ur idea)
Tw: Discussions of Trans Suicide and Mental health issues
Being Non-Binary (or in any other situation where you can't exactly pass as cis) sucks because just blend isn't really an option in our society so I essentially have two options
(A) Be out, correct people that don't recognise your gender CONSTANTLY. Deal with all the backlash that comes with that, (the ignorance, the weird stares and invasive questions ect.) and also accept that some people are so stuck in there norms they just won't learn and will continue to class you how THEY see fit.
(B) Don't disclose anything, endure being constantly being misgendered and let your mental health corrode slowly until you have a breakdown, rinse and repeat. All just to maintain safety and not be stigmatised.
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And people wonder WHY the mental health amd suicide rate amongst trans youth is so high, when your constantly shoved between a rock and a hard place because your fellow humans beings won't treat you with the most basic sense of fucking dignity.
Don't even get me started on the harassment, seeing news articles advocating for genocide the lack of safety in the medical field, and fuck me all the "research" in trying to get us to not exist
I'm so fucking tired
Ugh, the crisis of discovering that you’re nonbinary and wanting to change your name but nothing feels right and you’ve tried out a few different ones but they just don’t feel like they fit.