#non-ace

[imoga-pride]

Allosexual Aplatonic Flags

Gold and light gold from aroallo, blue from aplatonic (inverse of yellow or brown, typical colors used to represent platonicity/friendship).

Alloapl/aloapl/zedapl/zapl/aplz: zedsexual/zsexual/alosexual (NOT asexual/ace) aplatonic (NO platonic attraction).

[fuckyeahasexual]

Building off the last anon, why don't people just tag posts with queer as "queer" instead of "q-slur"? That way people can block the tag if they want but it doesn't make other people who identify as queer feel like their identity is unacceptable and offensive.

You can get xkit to block any word anywhere even if things aren’t tagged. And with tumblr’s filtering you are right you can tag it as queer if it says queer. By tagging to as q-slur they are reinforcing a bullshit believe that queer is a no no word. Any varient on the word makes it harder for people to filter out, which make me think it’s less about protecting people and more about respectivity politics.

[aspec-sexuality]

Asexuals who don’t want to be in relationships with non-aces aren’t bad

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be with someone else who doesn’t feel sexual attraction

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be with someone they won’t feel pressured to please more because they can’t feel attraction for them

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be with someone they won’t feel they aren’t able to connect with because their partner can feel something they are unable to

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be in a relationship where they don’t feel inadequate because of their inability to feel sexual attraction

Just as aces who do want to be in relationships with non-aces aren’t bad or not fully living up to the expectation of their partners because of their lack of sexual attraction

[fuckyeahasexual]

pagan book recommendations please! 🌈💕

Here’s books I’ve read or own they aren’t perfect and in some cases I might not have even fully read them so read/buy with care!

Artemis: The Indomitable Spirit in EverywomanThere’s also Goddesses in Everywoman which has different gods, even one for everyman. It’s a bit binary and I don’t know if I’d like it as much as I did originally since I as never in love with the Artemis book. But I did enjoy bits like it talking about Katniss being an Artemis archetype.

If Not, Winter by Sappho I joke that this is my holy text because seeing Sappho talk about Artemis and Eros feels very.. I dunno divine to me.

Divine Aces: Asexual Gods and Goddesses is actually part of a book that you can just google and find it’s an article and it’s overall poor in areas but it’s also a joy to see such a big name…mmm easy to find group just be like “Here’s who we think are asexual deities and briefly why.” 

I’ve mentioned I like the Witches’ Spell-A-Day books because I feel like most I could easily use it supply wise or I’d ignore the supplies and still like the words of the spell. 

Literary Witches this one is a literally questionable because it’s using witch as a non-religious and non-spell casting type of person which I feel is fine on a number of levels if not taken super literally. When I first got this I wanted to use it like a funky tarot deck and just flip to a bio when I was lost or seeking guidance. 

Basic Witches - More of a self help book with spells but it’s nice to see it push a sex positive that isn’t just like own your sex drive and mentions non-binary people which is nice since a lot of witchy stuff is focused on women. This still does, but like, it’s still nice to see.

Oh! I also have a Kitchen Witch’s Cookbook I haven’t used it to cook a single thing. The recipes are kind-of hard. But it’s exactly what I wanted in a cookbook. Tells you things like what oranges are used for in magic, and there’s a section by types of food or a holiday reference. But I’m not a good kitchen witch in any respects.  

[aspec-sexuality]

Asexuals who only wish to date other asexuals are perfectly reasonable and good

Asexuals who only wish to date non-asexuals are perfectly reasonable and good

Asexuals who date both aces and non-aces are perfectly reasonable and good

Asexuals who don’t date are perfectly reasonable and good

[aspec-sexuality]

A lot of people seem to be confused as to why it is difficult for aces and non-aces to date

People make the mistake of thinking asexuals and sex-repulsed people are one and the same and as such think asexuals=no sex. This is not true and you can have sex with asexual partners the same as with non-aces (aces be sure not to tell people you're ace when you mean sex-repulsed, if you're going into a relationship and don't want sex, say that instead of continuing the misconception that you don't want sex because you're ace), i.e. with consent and a complete willingness

What IS different is that asexuals do not find their partners sexually attractive

You'd be surprised just how vital that can be in a relationship. You may think to yourself that you wouldn't mind if your partner didn't find you sexually attractive, that love was all you needed (especially if they aren't sex-repulsed), but it can wear people down

I've been in enough ace relationships to tell you that it is largely a society-implemented thing. My fellow ace partners were insecure with my inability to find them sexually attractive despite not finding me attractive in that way either. It isn't anyone's fault, but it's something I rarely hear talked about despite how important it is

Aces are fundamentally different in that way - we can fall in love with people but we still don't feel the things non-aces do, and sometimes it just makes us incompatible with non-aces

[olivethehobbit]

About the word 'allosexual'

The thing is me an "allosexual" don't like the word "allosexual" because it just separates people? Its puts me here or there while I can feel a little bit in bots? Damn it, I hate when they do it with gender, why would I like when they do it with my interest in sex? It makes me REALLY unconfortable. To know that it needs a word to be 'against' the other. Just fucking say non-ace, it'll not kill you and it saves time.

[fuckyeahasexual]

Why your doctor should care about social justice | Mary Bassett A lot of people have been talking about how epidemics effect our community, many times very disproportionately, then I like looked back in my “Watch Later” list and thought I’d share.