#nonbinary adult

[unsoldvangogh]

I can’t believe my top surgery date is less than a month away 😦😝

I’m honestly so excited to feel comfortable in my own body 🥹

[enbycrip]

Super quick and messy photoshoot because I *do* have a lot of other work to do today.

Writing on hand reads “nonbinary aged 40”. The golden infinity symbol is the neurodivergence-affirming symbol for autism.

Not a child. Not incapable. Nonbinary autistic person aged 40.

Transphobia and disableism are inherently entwined.

Anyone tells me it’s messy; yes, I know, and IDGAF; I’m busy and it’s a five-minute idea I wanted to get down before I go back to my dissertation 🏳️‍⚧️💜🖤💛

[iibislintu]

My students are the best students: new kid in the class

New kid: ”Hey um teacher why are you wearing a dress?”

Kids: ”IT’S A SKIRT!”

New kid: ”Okay why are you wearing a skirt?”

Me: ”Well tbh it goes well with my boots.”

[ID: skirt and boots]

New kid: ”Okay but are you a boy or a girl?”

Kids: ”THEY’RE A SECRET CAT AGENT!”

New kid: ”— what?”

Me: ”It’s true, I have it on paper!”

Me: shows card

[ID: Visiting card that has the text ”secret cat agent” on it]

New kid: ”OH! So your gender is like, mayonnaise on a chair?”

Me: ”Pardon?”

New kid: ”Yeah so mayonnaise, but like, on a chair?”

Me: ”That’s right.”

New kid: ”Okay I have here an official document that you have to sign if your gender is mayonnaise on a chair. Here.”

New kid: pulls out empty A4

Me: signs

New kid: ”Okay, that’s settled then!”

[plethodoncinereus]

me on tumblr: nonbinary people don’t have to be androgynous!

me irl: I Must Be The Most Androgynous Person In This Grocery Store

[gendersomething]

I need advice from like.....a real nonbinary adult. Someone who has had a long term partner or multiple and started whatever form of family was right for you.

My long term partner (a cis man) wants to talk about what rearing children for us would look like someday and I just....dont know what to tell him.

He already knows that if we raise children they would have to be adopted, but honestly even the idea of raising children makes me viscerally uncomfortable. I've spent my entire life being told that I'd change my mind an want kids someday, so even considering it feels like giving in and assimilating into what society wants from me.

Also I just dont see anything appealing about the prospect of being a parent???

We are poly and have considered some alternative structures of parenting thar might lessen the dysphoria this whole thing causes for me but those all have their own challenges of course.

I just dont know how to navigate this and our differing desires.

[enbycrip]

Not doing great with chest dysphoria atm.

I have long since given up any real idea of any kind of physical transition because I’m nonbinary and they rarely deal well with that, and honestly I’ve got so medical trauma from years of disability, not being believed and getting gaslighting every time I ask for any kind of help, plus I’m autistic, plus I’ve got hEDS so slow healing, plus my folks would undoubtedly not deal great with it, that dealing with the crumbling, shitty UK trans healthcare system would be so fucking much more than I could handle.

And yet, if I could just take these fucking flesh beach balls *off* it would be so nice not to deal with the days where I see these things on me and feel them stuck to my chest so I can never lie comfortably on my front - or most ways, tbh - and just want to scratch my skin off.

[iibislintu]

haha i look pretty epic rn even though i’m only getting croissants for breakfast

[plethodoncinereus]

Me coming out to my parents while Buzzfeed Unsolved Supernatural: The Demonic Goatman’s Bridge plays in the background

*dramatic pause as my dad processes what I’ve just said*

Shane Fucking Madej: hey we’re here for the cult stuff?!?! saw the ad on craigslist

dad: “...something that we don’t quite get...”

*overly dramatic BFU music plays*