You don't have to answer this if you don't want too! But could you explain narrsist abuse and why its like a bad term? :]
Sure! Narcissistic abuse is a term used by a lot of people to describe what is actually just emotional abuse, and in doing so they give the idea that everybody with narcissistic personality disorder is abusive, or that NPD will make a person abusive.
Of course, people with NPD can be abusive, and NPD symptoms can be used to abuse or hurt people even if the person doesn’t intend to. However, that goes for any disorder. For example, a person who has anxiety can be controlling or irritable due to their symptoms, but anxiety doesn’t guarantee that. And if you were emotionally abused by someone with anxiety, you wouldn’t call it “anxious abuse,” you’d just say emotional abuse.
Not only does NPD not guarantee that somebody is abusive, it can make someone more vulnerable to being abused by other people, and it is most often caused by abuse in the first place. The people that are most harmed by NPD are the people who have it—even though, yes, it can be more difficult to be close with someone who has it. Again, this is true of all disorders, and frankly any close relationship with anyone is difficult. That’s just how relationships are.
Additionally, many (if not most) people who have NPD do not display their symptoms “maliciously,” and those who do still deserve basic respect and support as human beings. Labelling and stigmatizing all people with NPD as abusers is just plain inaccurate at best and very harmful at worst, as NPD is a trauma response that hurts the person experiencing it more than the people around them.
People with NPD deserve respect, patience, understanding, and support, not hatred or fear. And most people that are claimed to be “narcissistic abusers” aren’t even diagnosed with NPD, people are just guessing based on misinformation. Narcissist isn’t just a code word for evil, and “narcissistic abuse” simply doesn’t exist. It’s emotional abuse, and it can be done by anyone
Hope that helps :)! Feel free to shoot me another ask if you have any more questions. The actually NPD tag has a lot of good info in it as well, if you’re okay with scrolling a bit to find it.