#not spirits

[lovelylonerliterature]

Four more piercings and a clear mental.

A win is a win 🤭

[peaceandruin-archived]

How can i learn to love myself?

Hey anon. That’s a difficult question, because I don’t think I actually... love myself very much? It’s something I’m working on developing. But I can remember a few things I’ve heard that made sense to me, maybe they’ll help you?

First point is cutting down on negative self talk.  “If you had a friend talk to you the way you talk about yourself, would you still consider them a friend?”  I wish I could remember where I read that, because it really stuck with me. Catching the negative self talk and doing away with it, or even replacing it with something more positive. (”I really fucked that up” -> “I’ll do better next time”) It seems like a small thing, but it actually does help to make your headspace a nicer place to be in, haha.

Next one is to focus on your good traits. You have them, even if you don’t see or think of them right away - you might be able to ask friends or family what they see your good traits as, if you’re struggling with it. if you really can’t think of any, try to cultivate a trait that you like in others. Praise yourself mentally every time you exhibit that trait and forgive yourself if you falter with it. You’re learning and improving, mistakes will happen.

The last thing that worked for me is, fake it until you make it. In my job, I often have people seeking out my guidance on some specific, obscure programs. I don’t always know how to handle them - in fact, I usually don’t, haha. But I work for a bunch of pompous old guys who will give me hell if I don’t solve the problem, so I smile and say I’ll handle it, and then work at figuring it out. And it’s funny how just saying that I’ll figure it out and then trying to do so, makes me believe I can. I think that works for a lot of things. Fake the confidence, fake that you know what you’re doing, and over time, it stops being fake.

Man, I hope that wasn’t too trite, haha. Some of this might be cliche, but it really does work, at least for me. Self-love is an ongoing process with ebb and flow, anon, take it a day at a time and with small changes. I believe in you. <3

[peaceandruin-archived]

Drunk anon!Im drinking tequila!To Mystic-cat who rebloged this-im not trolling!i just got out an abusive relationship & although it hurts,i finally feel FREE! Ive ALWAYS loved ur blog Ruin & it feels so liberating that i can get back into spirit wrk!

Nice!! Good for you, getting out of there! You’re awesome and I believe in you, tequila anon!!

[peaceandruin-archived]

Hey! Okay so im soo drubk right now but i just want to lwt you know that i fucking love your blog! And its my bday! And yayyyy for calling out EA because they gave me not so good vibrs and yayyyyy Ruin!! :D goodnight!

lmao this is my favorite anon message i’ve ever gotten :D happy birdday to you, anon and have a great night!

p.s. by the waayyy... what are you drinking? just curious :3c

[peaceandruin-archived]

Youre so nice! Just thought id let you know!!

Thank yoooou, I’m sure you’re very nice too. <3

[peaceandruin-archived]

Is Hayley from infernoelf really gone? :( Is there no way to contact her? She is such a good person and friend. We didn't talk much but from the convos we did have, she's amazing. :/

She is off Tumblr, sadly, though she’d been talking about making a blog elsewhere... I don’t know if she followed through with that. She uses Skype and I could ask her how she feels about adding people... But last I heard from her, she was quite busy with some family stuff going on. ;;

[peaceandruin-archived]

Can i be your friend? :]

Haha, sure. :> You can add me on skype if you like, just message me off anon and I’ll add you?