What a DAMN lie!
As an INTJ woman raised by two F function parents and surrounded by F function people my whole life, I would like to say this: I am sick and tired of this website and others perpetuating the idea that Feely people are pure, innocent, naive, too-precious-for-this-world, only-want-what’s-good-for-you, beautiful, sweet cinnamon rolls of kindness and light! Because they ARE NOT!!! I have NEVER known a Feely type to care about anyone else’s feelings more than their own. I have never known them to reciprocate emotional safety. They have always expected me to take their side no matter what unkind thing they have done to me or someone else, which again, they do not reciprocate. I have never known them to admit to being in the wrong. Every slur, demeaning word, every truly derogatory and devaluing thing I have ever been called has been said by these Feely Sinnamon Rolls of Love. My father is an ENFP, a very damaged ENFP. He hates my entire personality and has done his level best to eradicate it. My mother is an ISFJ, also extremely damaged. My eldest sister is an INFJ. She’s been in an emotionally abusive relationship with her husband for five years and has only just now realized it because she only saw him thru an idealized light. I have found that Abstract Feelers cannot read the people in front of them the way the Abstract Thinker can. It causes them to decide what the other person is thinking and feeling and they react according to that, rather than finding out what the other person is actually thinking and feeling. Most of the Feelers that I know are very damaged people, so this is by no means a blanket rant. It is my frustrated observations about the dark side of the these people that no one else seems to know about or acknowledge. My point is that you Feely people can be just as damaging and abusive to us Thinkers as we can be to you!
