Heyy!!😊 what are your thoughts on Leo sun and moon, sag rising, virgo mercury and cancer venus & mars 🥺. I think I'm very obsessive when I get attached to someone I like. I hate it.
I typically won’t answer asks with this many placements but you mentioned something that resonated with me.So I will help you. <3
“I think I’m very obsessive when I get attached to someone I like. I hate it.”
I think the culprit might be your fixed energy. The 4 fixed signs are Scorpio, Leo, Taurus and Aquarius. Leo is a fixed sign and that fixed modality is on both of your luminaries. Two fo the most sensitive points in your chart. Your basic core and ego and your feelings/how you process them. Leo loves to be loved and admired and when they don’t feel the same from their partner/friends it feels more devastating because the Sun demands to be felt and seen. It is the center of our universe after all. Fixed signs are also associated with stabilization, determination, depth, and persistence. On the other hand, those who hold this astrological quality tend to also be inflexible, rigid, stubborn, opinionated and single-minded. in layman’s terms, in love this can be the obsessive aspect.Now that’s just one theory.The second could be your Cancerian Venus, how we show love/appreciation/affection and your Mars which is our drive, sex, aggression, ambition.
Both being in the sensitive sign of Cancer can make one attach emotions and feelings to love and sex more deeply than another placement. Cancers feel things to an almost painful degree. It’s because as a water sign, right beside Pisces and Scorpio you guys are the MOST intuitive. Sometimes it’s hard for Cancerians to separate their emotions from someone else’s because they are frequently picking up on the energy of others all the time.Eh, it’s a water sign thang. *Kanye Shrug*It can be difficult to compartmentalize what’s yours and what isn’t. Also, Cancer’s are ruled by the Moon and the Moon rules the 4th house of family and relationships. So as a result, being so relationship and feeling-oriented it is very easy for them to become obsessed with someone. Now it’s not in a [under-developed] Scoprionic possessive way but rather when a Cancer comes across as controlling, it’s more in an “I love you so much I just can’t even imagine my life without you” sort of obsession. Martian Cancerians can also retaliate with such intensity in love because their feelings are associated with their rage. Because they are the most emotional, those who trigger their martial traits [anoyone they’re physical/sexual with or who ignite their sex drive] will feel it. Hint: Angelina Jolie has her Venus in Cancer and solar crab OJ Simpson has his Venus in Cancer as well if that helps paint the picture. What do these two have in common? Intense and sometimes even destructive relationships that are notorious for their hot and heavy appeal but also their themes of obsession.Now I don’t know all your aspects but I’d definitely check to see if your planets are making any aspects to Pluto. Tbh I wouldn’t be surprised if your sun or moon are squaring it if it’s in Leo. If your Pluto is in Scorpio like many in the Pluto in Scorpio Generation that have birthdays between November 1983 and November 1995, then most Leonine planets will form conflicting aspects there. Your Sun Moon venus and Rising are also in semi-sextile signs [Leo and Cancer], which typically indicates friction or annoyance. Fire and water do not mix. It creates steam. It is what it is. I’d also check to see if you have any 8th house placements as well as this can put a scorpionic flavor on your expressions, especially if your Venus or Mars is there. Your moon forming any aspect to pluto, flowing or hard might cause you to have obsessive tendencies in love.Pay attention to your Neptune and see if he’s forming any aspects to your Venus and your moon. I wrote a little here on what Neptune can do to folks, especially in relationships. It’s not always pretty.Last but not least– check your Lilith placement. See what sign she’s in. See if she’s on any sexual planet or in the:1. 4th House: Home life and the base of operations (ruled by the Cancer/Moon) 2. 5th house: Recreation, romance, and creativity (ruled by the Leo/Sun)
3. 7th house: Relationships, partnerships, and marriage (ruled by Libra/Venus)4. 8th House: Meeting needs, Sex, Death, life secrets, and joint resources (ruled by Scorpio/Pluto)5. 11th House: Friendships, associations, ideals, and causes (ruled by Aquarius/Uranus)IF she’s anywhere here, that could also be a give-away as to why you may feel obsessive in your love life. Lilith is like Pluto on steroids.My heart goes out to you, love. As a fellow fixed sign and someone with dominant water placements, [A Scorpio stellium], we write the book on obsession. I spent the bulk of my formative years [before I learned astrology] hating myself for the intensity I seemed to project in relationships, especially my romantic ones. I knew I had obsessive tendencies but never understood why. I spent so much of my life feeling like something was wrong with me and began to avoid relationships like the plague or would be purposefully aloof just to avoid exhibiting these traits. Then one day, 6 years ago I stumble across a birth chart calculator and it all made sense. Bottom line, there’s nothing wrong with you.Once you figure out what or where the issue is, you can find some balance. Balance. That’s it. That’s all it really takes. Getting to the root if it/tracing it. You’ll find once you do that, yes you’ll still be obsessive but perhaps you’ll be able to save your energy on those who really deserve it and reciprocate the intensity to you equally and in a healthy way. A synastry analysis can help with that as well ;)
