#offending people

[ma-tsu-the-male-goddess]

[legendarylyxdeslicspowerups-blog]

Dreeeeeeeeeeeeam Daaaaaaaddy.... ~

I’m sure you all heard about this magnificent game, filled with the hottest and most daddliest dads around, right? Cue, our dream daddies. 

Our goal in this game is to meet and create relationships with dads, while also being a father to your own teenage daughter. I could’ve been my own dream daddy. Mwhahaha. 

My favorite dads are definitely Craig and Matt. My least favorite... Brian.

This game has it all. A good story, multiple endings, meaning multiple playthroughs, hot dads, cute kids... What could go wrong?

THE FANBASE. THE MUTHAFRIGFRAG FANBASE. .. Sometimes I really hate the internet.

This game released on Steam July 20th, it hasn’t been a month yet and the fanbase is already becoming toxic. 

There’s this person that we know online as Ohnips, who created fanart on Dream Daddy, which genderbent the dads to females, calling them Dream Milfs. I thought this was adorable! 

^That’s the picture by Ohnips. Look at how beautiful they are! And look how precious the art style is. LOOK AT IT!

Well, not everyone looked at it and thought, “That’s super cute,” In fact, people on Tumblr started harassing Ohnips about the artwork, saying genderbending was transphobic, and anyone who draws genderbending, or refers to genderbending is transphobic. Here’s the kicker... The people complaining that it’s transphobic? Aren’t even trans. 

I have a huge problem with this. My issue is that the trans community has been silent on the issue of genderbending when it comes to geek culture. This could be because they don’t find it to be offending, so why are straight people trying to convince trans people that this artwork is offending? Why can’t the people who are offended explain why it’s offending? 

I could understand if in the original game, there were characters who are trans, and that was taken away in the artwork somehow. But that’s not the case. It’s not hinted towards at all. 

I have been in the geek world for a long time. I live, eat and breathe all things geeky, and up until this game came out, I’d never heard anything along the lines of genderbending being transphobic. And I figured, given the fact that I cosplay as a genderbent Dandy from Space Dandy, if it was transphobic, someone would have pointed it out by now, right? 

So, I think we have an issue of Tumblr Feminists speaking out, thinking that they are doing good, and aren’t. In fact, sending death threats for your cause won’t make anyone treat your opinion with any seriousness. And if you can’t educate people on why it’s offensive, it looks like you’re just bitching to bitch, and that’s not a good image, either.

I also have a problem with the fact that Ohnips is clearly being harassed for their artwork, and clearly being sent death threats, yet social media has done nothing in regards to it, when they should be. Show the people who use these forums that harassment and death threats will not be tolerated. 

Ohnips does not deserve this behavior, and they deserve an apology. Not just from people who have harassed them, but also from heads of these social media platforms for not protecting them.

I’m going to end this with, again, I really hate the internet sometimes. I wish people would keep their hateful opinions to themselves. This situation will likely taint the Dream Daddy fandom, and it’s sad, because Dream Daddy is such a good game. 

Please, give this game a chance. It’s really heartwarming, and so much different than other dating simulators. And please, stand up for people who are being harassed for something as simple as artwork. The geeky culture has always been all inclusive, and I think it’s important that we remind everyone that they belong with us, regardless of who they are. 

What do you guys think? Is genderbending transphobic? Do you consider Ohnips photo to be inappropriate? I’m curious because I can’t imagine how this would be offensive in the slightest. 

And thanks again for the support!

[kittyface27]

 life on facebook be like

[life-isnt-always-green]

So I tend to be a pretty sarcastic person, just inherently. Basically everything that comes out of my mouth is a joke about something but a sarcastic joke because I'm not actually funny unless I'm being sarcastic. I'm also a very lazy person so I typically will find the most efficient way for me to do something so that I don't have to work as hard the next time. So when one of my associates does a task the hard way, I laugh and then tell them the shortcut to make their lives easier later on. And when I laugh it's not because I think they're stupid, I mean I did it the same way before them, I laugh because I'm thinking about all the time I personally wasted. However, not explaining that, makes it seem as if I'm being condescending and I've apparently pissed off a lot of my associates because of it. My boss and I discussed how our associates come to work as a safe haven from the other shit they have to deal with, and I guess how I act is making them feel as if it's no different that what they're escaping from. And I completely understand that and I apologized to them for coming across as if I didn't appreciate them as employees. But it sucks because that's what work was for me too, and I thought I had finally found a place where my sarcasm wouldn't be a nuisance to people like it is to my mom when I'm home. Only to find out that even at work, I still have to watch what I say so as not to offend anyone. And I'm so frustrated because I wish that they would understand that I don't ever say anything to anyone with malicious intent or because I think I'm superior to them. But my whole life, no one has ever understood that, and I'm kind of giving up the idea that anyone ever will.

[atbaron]

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We live in a society of heavy politically correct policing. It’s hard to say anything without offending someone. Sometimes even the most benign phrase can trigger a person. I have personally offended someone by saying, “Bless you,” after they sneezed. Either the person was an atheist, they thought I said something else, or they were just having an incredibly bad day. Either way, the look I…

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[askanautistic]

Hi, autistic person here. Why is it that some things I say upset people even though I don't mean them like that? I was talking about a fictional being last night with a friend and said "this person is gay". Of course, she found out later exactly what I meant, but before then she said I was saying it like it was a bad thing.

This commonly happens for a number of reasons usually related to social and communication difficulties/difficulties understanding how (or why) someone else will feel towards or react to our words or actions.

For example:

- our tone (autistic people might not be aware of the tone they’re using or how someone else will interpret our tone).- saying things that we consider to be true without understanding that someone else might be upset by it/not preempting that we might need to explain what we’re saying or that we perhaps shouldn’t say it at all).- not recognising that someone’s upset (so not realising we need to explain or apologise to fix it).- not understanding why someone’s upset (so being unable to explain or fix things).

[blackros78]

It is the job of the satirist to make people in power uncomfortable. Really uncomfortable to the point where they go 'This has to be stopped.'

Tony Hendra (Drunk Stoned Brilliant Dead: The Story of the National Lampoon)