#omends

[ftwpositiviity]

OMENDS.

ANONYMOUS SAID;  I just wanted to send some love to @omends because I read in a post that they had a really bad day and I wanted to make it at least a little bit better for them.  I don’t really know them all too much, but I really hope things get better for them and that they know that there are people around them that really care and love them a lot.

[magioffire]

🍵 body representation !

get yer salt get yer salt ; accepting

alright ive got Thoughts about this. both inside and outside the rpc and tumblr in general. but lets start with the rpc for one.

ive been on tumblr a long ass time, since like....idk 2013? maybe even 2012 idk its easy to lose track of time LOL and ive seen both this website and the rp community go through a lot of different discourse, on all things, but specifically in this case, body representation and positivity, and like a lot of tumblr discourse, i think a lot of people particularly in fandom spaces are very....preformative in their support of people of different body types, particularly bigger body types. like yeah, its easy to say you support fat characters in media, but are you actually taking the time to draw fanart of fat characters, or making your own fat ocs? are you taking the time to actually learn how to draw different body types properly? are you giving characters of different body types the same time of day as other characters? and the answer is often a no for most people. and its not cuz they hate fat people usually or anything like that, though i have encountered a few like that, its more than society has really beaten it into us this idea that conventional attractiveness is the only kind of attractiveness worth admiring.

like alright, ive always had a hard time correcting artists who drew valeriu skinny in the past. because not only was i was like, scared i was coming across as unappreciative, or knocking their art, but also scared that i was going to give the implication that i was telling them they couldn't draw. but over time, particularly in the case of art i am commissioning (where i am much more proactive in making sure if theres any issues of vali's weight not being represented properly, they dont go past the sketch stage, and also making sure the artists i commission *can* actually draw fat people in the first place) because its so disheartening when you pay money for a commission, and youre too un-assertive that you just grit your teeth about it or you dont push hard enough to have it fixed because youre scared of being pushy and unappreciative. but now i know better. i know my character and people like me deserve to be represented properly.

theres also this overwhelmingly trope where fat characters, particularly fat male/masculine characters, are shown as slobs, as being just gross and uncultured people, people with no self control when it comes to food, and comic relief, usually relating to food comic relief, which is a very harmful stereotype of fat people. i really aim to subvert these ideas with vali, who is a very beautiful, eloquent person. also ive noticed in the lgbt community, theres a lot of fatphobia. and theres even less fat representation of lgbt fat people, often because i think in order for straight audiences to view lgbt relationships as 'acceptable', they have to be conventionally attractive queer people, queer people that are sexy but not too risque as too scare the cishets. but its also coming from inside the lgbt community (i repeat, the fatphobia is coming from inside the house). i dont know how many times ive seen jokes or actual examples of cis white gay dudes having "no fats, no femmes/trans, no colors" on their grindr profiles. like imagine the typical media representation of a queer man. youre probs thinking of a conventionally attractive, tall, muscular, white guy with short cropped hair and an otherwise unchallenging, unthreatening gay man, who is nonthreatening not only to straight people, but also gay men who have these cissexist, racist and fatphobic ideas. and this bleeds into fandom. fat characters and fat headcanons of lgbt characters are overwhelmingly less popular and sometimes even ostracized by the fandom at large. its seen as 'gross' and 'disrespectful' to make characters who are skinny in the canon material fat, when there is nothing inherently gross or disrespectful about making a canonly skinny character fat (not talking about fetish art, fat chasers are a whole new ball game and give actual fat creators trying to create serious fat characters a bad name).

and just lastly.....ive seen people try to beat around the bush about vali being overweight. whether its in drawings, or in rps, people as a whole seem to be reluctant to accept the fact valeriu is fat. and lmfao this isnt about anyone specific, particularly my rp partners you all have been amazing, but its just a...general *vibe* i get. that people would *prefer* if vali *wasnt* fat. and im like well. fuck you. hes fat and hes beautiful and hes proud. deal with it. i think people need to come to terms with the fact that fat people can not only be just as attractive as skinny people, but even sometimes *more* attractive in the eyes of some. beauty after all is in the eye of the beholder. and let me say, vali hasnt always been a fat character. and lets just say he got a lot more ship interest when he was skinner. which, im not complaining in the slightest, i would rather have a smaller selection of rp partners that are actually rping and shipping with my character for the love of him, and not just because they like his face.

[imxthexhandler]

Pass the happy! 🌻 When you receive this, list 5 things that make you happy and send this to 10 of the last people in your notifications 💖

@omends: Thank you for sending this in, hun. I hope you are doing well!

Well, Marvel makes me happy, so... Just gonna list five Marvel things.

1.) CLINT BARTON (aka HAWKEYE)!

He is my favorite Avenger, and I love him. (Yes, comic, cartoon, video game, and movie Clint--I love them all) #TeamHawkeye for life!

2.) My Peggy Carter girls!

I’ve made so many wonderful friends while cosplaying as Peggy--especially my two pals named Jenna, one of them being @nerdgirljen​, and I met my Angie, too! (Also when I met @agentsterling​ we were both cosplaying as Peggy)

3.) AVENGERS ASSEMBLE!

Yes, this series is very campy, but I love it. When I’m having a bad day, I can pop in one of my favorite episodes, and it cheers me up. I love the animation style, the characterizations, and I love the voice cast.

4.) Season one finale of AOS!

(I couldn’t find a gif from that episode so I just picked a random one of Coulson) This finale had everything for me-- action, drama, heartfelt moments, cameo with Nick Fury... I loved everything about it. It is one of my favorite episodes in the entire series and for any Marvel series.

5.) The positive part of the fan community!

(Using Kamala because she started out as a hero fan before becoming Ms. Marvel!) Yes, there are a lot of ugly parts in the fandom, but I have made some amazing friends in this community-- through cosplay, just liking the movies, fanfic writing, and roleplaying. And I will forever be grateful and blessed for that.

[rpcsitivity]

omends

send me urls for positivity / @omends

first of all i love your header, it’s so pretty and such a VIBE. your carrd is beautiful, i love it with my entire heart. kaey seems like such an interesting oc and reading about him is very fun. i love the lore and having a timeline in your carrd, i just love reading all that i can about a persons muse. i can just feel your love for kaey and i love that

[magioffire]

@omends said: like cmon yall get OVER yourselves and idk,, stop acting indigant when someone doesn't get your your "hints". stop acting like people are stupid / rude / problematic when people are just genuinely trying to foster relationships and are probably trying their best / going out of their comfort zone.

GOD YEAH you 100 percent know whats going on because u were there through it all. like ok, lmfao ill admit, when i was in fandom a few years back i was a little bit of a menace. as in i was loud, unapologetic and stepped on people’s toes without really intending to. i know im a polarizing person. and also i know you cant expect everyone to like you or get along with you, if you got along with everyone your friendships wouldnt mean as much and i became kinda an aggressive person as a defense mechanism when i realized i had acquired a negative reputation among some people. and so like.... i get it when people are wary of me. but 1. its been 2-3 years. 2. most of the time people dislike or are wary of me based off third party things they heard from other people that basically boil down to misunderstandings and just not getting along, and you end up with this entire portion of an rpc that automatically is like “nah, we dont want anything to do with blair/aedan because i heard xyz from this person” simply because of a reputation you accidentally acquired in a rp fandom YEARS ago. like, that shit is so disheartening. when you’re willing to give people a chance but they aren’t even willing to put aside their preconcieved notions of you to treat you like a person because they are just so convinced you are evil/bad/a drama queen/doesnt care about canon/whatever from stuff they’ve heard from other people. 

this is why, unless you come up to me and tell me “this person is literally a pedo/sexual predator/nazi/any other unforgivable shit”, im going to take my chances getting to know the ‘problematic’ people of the rpc, and at least give them a chance. because i rather form my own opinion about someone than allow someone else’s ideas of a person taint how i feel about them before ive actually interacted with them. because just because you dont get along with someone doesnt automatically mean they are bad and its okay to shit on them, or that it’s okay to sabotage people’s potential relationships just because you had a bad experience with someone. 

honestly, probs just being paranoid, but becuase of my experiences in the rpc in the past i cant help but be a bit paranoid that i’m TOO MUCH and that ive insulated myself in a bubble of people who like me but outside that bubble people really dont like me. feels Bad Man

[cripplemagics]

🔪 for kaey ?

Jay's leaned against the door frame, taking a drag from their cigarette with no regards for the corpse in the room behind them. Their clothes are askew from the scuffle. Blood stains their hands and mats their hair. It's not entirely their blood. When Kaey walks by, they don't move to hide anything. Not even a 'it was self defense' comes from them. Instead they sniff.

"Guy was a dick. Didn't mean to kill him though. Anyway, you got a problem with it?"

[soleiltm]

MUSE AESTHETIC FEELINGS.

𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐈𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐒. being unable to stop smiling. laughter. bear hugs. happy tears. waving arms around. dancing. contently sighing. eyes twinkling. laughter lines. childlike playfulness. skipping. talking more. affection. cracking more jokes than usual. gesturing more when talking. higher pitched voice. squealing. jumping around. clapping.

𝐒𝐀𝐃𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐒. tearing up. self-hugging. one-arm cross. an aching chest. scratchy throat. a runny nose. turning away. deep breaths. quivery smiles. crying. infantile sobbing. hands gripping each other or an object. covering mouth. puffy eyes. eyes appear red. voice breaking. a distant or empty stare. monotone voice. asking for comfort. faking a smile. crumbling. shaking. whimpering. depression. abusing an unhealthy habit. withdrawing from others. big teary eyes. doing something even if it could hurt them.

𝐀𝐍𝐆𝐄𝐑. furrowed brows. baring teeth. passive-aggressive comments. avoiding eye contact. sarcasm. headache. sore muscles. hiding clenched fists. irritability. jumping to conclusions. raising voice. going silent. demanding immediate action. keeping it all in until exploding. body tensing. making risky decisions. middle finger.

𝐅𝐄𝐀𝐑. wanting to flee or hide. what-ifs. images of what-could-be flashing in mind. uncontrollable trembling. rapid breathing. screaming. a skewed sense of time. irritability. keeping silent. denying fear. turning away from the cause. pretending to be brave. nail-biting. lip-biting. scratching skin. a joking tone but a voice that cracks. fainting. insomnia. panic attacks. exhaustion. substance abuse. tics. rushing adrenaline. face draining of colour. hair lifting on the back of the neck. feeling rooted to the spot. making body as small as possible. staring but not seeing. crying. a shrill voice. whispering. gripping something or someone. stuttering. flinching at noises. pleading.

𝐄𝐗𝐇𝐀𝐔𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍. constantly yawning. blurring words together. dark circles or lines under eyes. mood swings. hallucinations. calling people by the wrong name. dizziness. denying they’re tired. slow blinking. trouble concentrating. stumbling. leaning on a doorframe for support. sluggish movements. falling asleep someplace that isn’t a bed. becoming irritated by the smallest things. “i’m awake, i’m fine.”. shaking so bad they spill their drink. fall asleep in their clothes. lay their head on the table because they’re so tired. passing out.

tagged by: @omends

tagging: steal it

[vxctorx]

TOUCH + GLIDE (for chey!)

@omends​​

𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒 𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐀𝐈𝐑 𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐌𝐏𝐓𝐒.

  ❝—I want you to really picture it all.❞ The young man’s softly shared reasonings carry on, even as his head cants into the other’s touch, the winding streams of gold which adorn his crown swallowing the tips of the young man’s clement fingers; who could have guessed that the nimble hands of a thief would be capable of so loving a touch? ❝—With this money, we could buy our own freedom. You could have yourself an early retirement. As for me, I could practically assume a whole new identity. My father would never find us.❞