#online shit

[triaelf9]

There is nothing more disgusting than “I told you so”ing people when something has gone down. This is not the time to tell us how much smarter and greater you are. “ha ha you fell for it good job getting CONNED” what cool way to respond when there’s a victim, instead of like “gosh I hope so and so is well” We don’t WANT people to be bad and garbage, we want people to get BETTER

And if you don’t, you’re not here for a better world, you’re here to gloat and prop yourself up over the situation..

Anyway yes this is cryptic, if you know you know. I’m going to let the person affected have the chance to actually fucking tell us in their own time. 

gonna bury myself in work, having kind of an unexpected physical and mental response to this news and in order to not fall apart (which I can’t do b/c I have work to do and a family to support) I need to just NOT process this right now.

[rainbat]

Nowadays, a lot of people realize they’re queer online, and from that chunk of people, a lot of them explore their identity in a way that is solely connected to their identity on the internet, i.e. they do not extend their exploration to their real life. That’s not being said to minimize the journey of coming out or discovering yourself, it’s a difficult process that’s sometimes unsafe or impossible to navigate in real life, so coming out online by labelling yourself as queer and putting different pronouns in your bio is often the first and safest step in this day and age, but it’s not wholly representative of what it actually means to be visibly queer.

Extending your queerness to your real-life presentation (or, presenting as queer in real life before even existing in online spaces) opens you to being ‘visibly queer’ to the population at large, and when you do that, you very quickly realize that being strictly queer online shelters you from a large chunk of experiences you have when you’re visibly queer. Be it in your gender expression, the way your express your sexuality through your dress, how HRT physically changes you, or how being with your partner labels you to others as queer, a person who is visibly queer is immediately treated differently by society at large, in the streets, in the workplace, at school, etc., and is targeted ten times more than someone who is not. Since being visibly queer is, well, visible, it’s relatively easy to tell in person who falls into this marginalized group, and understand that when they speak on their experiences, they’re speaking from the experience of being queer.

The problem online, behind screen names and aliases and text posts, is that everyone and anyone exploring can add a label in their bio that makes them look visibly queer, even if they’re not actually visibly queer. These people are strictly queer online, and while that doesn’t make them any less queer, it does not expose them to the same experiences a visibly queer person has in real life, so their viewpoints are limited and the extent to which they can speak on the numerous issues visibly queer people face is short. But since the internet is its own space, where it’s nearly impossible to tell who presents the same in real life and who does not, you end up having no idea as to who’s speaking from the experience of being visibly queer, and who’s speaking from a strictly queer online viewpoint.

What’s been happening more and more with nuanced discussions on queer experiences online is that you have people who are strictly queer online speaking on topics and issues as if they’re coming from a place of being visibly queer, without disclosing that their opinions and views are not based in real life experience. These takes and opinions spread to other people who are strictly queer online, who interpret these arguments as if they’re coming from people who are visibly queer, and thus should be seen as definitive understandings of extremely nuanced issues. Then, when visibly queer people step in to challenge or question these ideas, they’re shot down or piled up against, because the majority, the loudest voices, are the people who spend their queer existence on the internet instead of interacting in real queer spaces, with their queer neighbors and elders, or with the partners in public spaces.

Constant arguments that no one is having in real life, insane opinions that any visibly queer person can tell you is based in homophobia, every voice being heard and applauded under thirty with extremely limited lived experience, have created a culture of online queerness that is fast and far removed from what it’s like to be visibly queer. And that culture is spreading like wildfire in spaces that have always been deemed queer-friendly: fandoms and niche interests, where people come together to create and talk, and share their experiences. All of a sudden trans and gay people are being pushed out because voicing their opinions based on being visibly queer has their own community trivializing, dismissing, or attacking them.

[limerence0faloser]

So I've spent the last year and a half trying to online date and I only succeeded in meeting two people, both of which weren't interested in anything beyond friends and we slowly drifted apart.

And then I saw this one guy that I thought was so wow my anxiety kicked in and I sent text walls and he blocked me 💀

And the few other matches I got were super dry or didn't seem to have actually read anything in my profile

So online dating is a scam, or maybe I'm doing it wrong and need to go into a discord lmaoo

I don't know why I bother posting on here I have zero friends and no one ever replies or anything

Fucking hell I'm mentally ill

[newtloss]

chill reminder that the real world does exist and how you’re perceived irl vs online is always gonna be different and not everyone is gonna have context to certains actions you perform or words you use

[pregnantradford]

oh rm gee, i know i prolly sound like an sjw or whatever 8ut arguing with people online SO FUN even if theyre dumb as a fucking 8rick

[mattscrushingwolves]

ONLINE!!

Like this post for a starter! :3

[mightymajin]

i’m so bored rn someone do something with me

[vimsy]

Want to apologize to all my friends for being horrible when it comes to chatting online. Have gotten bad at even keeping a conversation now a days online, and it's nothing personal at all.

Also, will try to be on Skype more often again, been gone 3 weeks on vacation, that's why I haven't been on Skype at all for a while.