I just noticed I almost never post about Lavellan x Dorian compared to all my other canon romances and that is because, if I have to be totally brutally honest with myself, I am not entirely sure what their relationship would be like post Inquistion.
Like I am in a LDR myself- and part of me wants a sappy, sweet romance and them just finding small ways to be happy amidst all the chaos.
But another part of me thinks that Dorian wouldn't be entierly ready for all the controversy him having an Dalish elven husband would bring in the Imperium. And I don't mean it in the he would be ashamed of him etc. way because obviously not, that man loves to stir up drama and controversy. I mean that back in Ferelden/Orlais Dorian felt as if he was the one to be ashamed of and he seemed kind of unaware that to an elven Inquistior there is a lot more things at play that is going to make this relationship hard then Dorian being a Tevinter magister. And I think this obliviousness to how social pressures will affect diffrent races in diffrent ways makes sense for him, he doesn't notice that just how he never noticed how having slaves is weird till he left Tevinter. It's a very realistic trait for a character who grew up with considerable amount of privilage. Which leads me to belive that, as much as I think Dorian wouldn't be ashamed of his elven boyfriend, he would also probably not know or be prepared to help him with all the backlash that is inevetably coming their way. As much as I love Dorian he has this horrible habit of putting foot in his mouth and just saying the worst thing at the worst possible time, especially when it comes to elves and I think, in environment that is as hostile to elves as Tevinter, this would become a source of some tension in the relationship, maybe even potentially be a reason for it to fracture.
What I am saying is I have two wolves inside me, one wants to make happy nerdy husbands Pavellan content, second wants to make bitter, still not over each other and love each other dearly but it's complicated ex-husbans Pavellan content and they are at each others throats every time I think about them.