As a system, especially when we were younger, we sought out online communities. I remember feeling like everyone within those communities had the most exciting systems, every alter was fascinating with an elaborate backstory and life in headspace, with magical powers or some special trait to top it all off. Every other post seemed to be about funny communication between alters or an aesthetic post about who they were. And as a system who doesn't have that, who doesn't have a ton of fictives who yearn for their source partners or a host with magical powers and an extended family insys, we often felt left out in a way. We felt like we needed those traits to be valid, to be included.
We've since realised that's bullshit, and in all honesty it's more common for a did system to not have any of that. That it's okay for our alters to be 'boring', for our very clinical did to be 'boring'.
Shout out to boring systems.
To systems who don't have many, if any fictives
Whose alters don't have extensive backstories or exomemories
Who don't have a headspace
Whose headspace isn't interesting
Whose alters don't have aesthetic about me's or profiles or carrda of pluralkits
Who are private about who's in front
Who don't like to share personal information
Who don't have exciting innerworld events
Who don't have funny moments between alters
Who don't hear funny jokes or comments when fronting
Whose alters are human
Whose alters don't have magical powers or inhuman features
Whose alters don't have complicated insys relationships
Who don't present overtly
And this isn't to say systems who have the 'interesting' alters, systems, headspaces and presentations are faking or wrong. It's a valid way for did and osdd to present, but it's one that's very heavily represented whereas more covert, 'boring', clinical presentation is often ignored online.
