I need to just think this aloud because, yes, I just started watching Outlander 10+ years late and it's gotten in my head. It's this total uncanny valley of being SO CLOSE to what I want in a show/romance, the good parts are SO GOOD, but so NOT QUITE there, that I feel like I'm falling into this media consumption hell where you can't stop watching it but also aren't totally enjoying it? And worry that it's going to end really poorly and be super depressing and dissatisfying and I already went through this once which was enough!
I'm on season 1, just finished episode 11, It's got so many things I love:
-Really, like really, hot male lead
-He falls first AND harder, just... complete devotion body and soul
-Slight enemies to lovers vibes ('enemies' stage is very brief but it's there)
-Sexually experienced woman, inexperienced and super enthusiastic man trope
-Strong, protective man, a little bit traumatized and willing to suffer for her (I mean, he should *super* traumatized based on what he's been through, but so far it doesn't come out that much in the way it does for some characters, it's mostly showing up as that fiercely protective, codependent instinct, not being like, Dark and Moody and Mentally TormentedTM, he's actually kind of a cinnamon roll?)
-Romantic period setting with gorgeous scenery and costumes
-Really hot sex scenes that have variety and character development in them
But then, there's what I'm really NOT into...A lot of this feels like it comes down to genre? Like it's really more of a historical fantasy drama, and I came to it wanting romance:
-like, torture, and rape?
-Sex scenes (or even just tender moments) constantly getting interrupted, sometimes traumatically? Show doesn't let us just kind of rest there for a second and indulge in it, most of the time?
-Love triangles! I hate fucking love triangles! A bit of a jealousy-that-makes-them-realize-their-feelings-for-the-other-person plotline is fine with me, but once my ship is together I really don't enjoy having other people entering in especially when it feels like it's just there to manufacture more narrative tension. I cannot tell you how much it is making me crazy that Claire keeps wanting to get back to Frank when she has fucking JAMIE FRASER. And having looked at summaries, come across gifs, etc. and seeing she does eventually go back to Frank? And Jamie marries fucking Laoghaire apparently? And then there's something with this Lord Gray fellow? Like WTF? are they soulmates or are they not!!!!
-Lack of reciprocity? Like, he falls first and harder, that's great. But how long can we go on with Jamie being just completely devoted to her body and soul, risking his life to protect/save her MULTIPLE times (after she did something stupid that he TOLD her not to do that put her in danger in the first place), changing deeply held views and cultural norms FOR HER, offering unconditional love and forgiveness and she's like....not even choosing him? Let alone changing for him in turn, growing as a character, showing much tenderness and affection, etc. I mean you do see that she has an attraction/connection to him that comes out in their intimacy, eye contact, etc., but she's holding back and still wanting to get to Frank. IDK after a while of this I get tired. It's not satisfying to me. I want it to be mutual. Even at the end of episode 11 when he takes her to the stones, and then she comes back to him, it's not made clear whether she CHOOSES to stay with Jamie or whether the stones just don't work. Maybe the next episode makes that explicit and I just have to keep watching. IDK it just feels like what exactly is Jamie getting back from this relationship besides the fact that she's beautiful and he gets to be the hero for her (maybe that's enough for him who knows)?
-Woman character that feels kinda, undeveloped? I mean I get it, she's feisty, she's headstrong, she does try to make things happen. But overall you realize she doesn't really have an overarching purpose or goal as a character. She has no "I want" song at the beginning of the story, to borrow a Disney category. Her role in the setup of the story is entirely passive--like even the whole reason they're in Scotland is because FRANK has an interest in researching genealogy and she's just along for the ride. She just kind of wistfully longs to reconnect with her husband, and then accidentally falls back in time. And then her only purpose is to try to get back to her own time. Which--you know--is the opposite of where the story is actually going. This became more clear to me after Devil's Mark episode where you find out Geilis is also a time traveler, on PURPOSE, because she has an ideal and a goal she's trying to accomplish. And when she's like, "so what's the point then, if I give it all up for you," I was kind of like, you know girl, you're right. What IS the point of Claire? Why should these people keep sacrificing themselves for her? Is she just kinda a self-inserty fantasy wish fulfilment character? Not that I think women shouldn't just be loved for who they are, but...when you have a story, and a protagonist, narratively you want to protagonist to have a goal that is driving the story forward.
I can't remember if there were other things besides the fact that I really don't want to watch Jamie get raped by Randall or Claire go back to the present while pregnant with Jamie's baby but that's enough for now.
Anyway if you've read this and have any advice like "it's worth it keep watching" or "having seen what you do/don't like in a story I advise you to get out now, and/or just rewatch the wedding episode or watch to a certain episode and pretend that was the end" feel free to comment.
OR if you have any great fanfic recommendations, particularly in-universe ones, bc I think that is going to be necessary to cope LOL