How do you deal with the shame of liking the opposite sex, even when you know you're still a bi/pan person.
This is a tough one. Liking the opposite sex when being bi or pan doesn’t make you any less bi or pan. Bisexual or pansexual people in “hetero” relationships are still very much bisexual or pansexual.
If it’s because of what other people may think that you’re “faking it” or something on those lines I would ignore them. I think the best way to accept it is try not to stress yourself. You’re not any less of a label just because of what others may think or perceive of you.
As for the shame part. There’s nothing to be ashamed about liking the opposite sex, bi/pansexuality is your identity, and liking the opposite sex is part of bi/pansexuality- no matter how frequent or infrequent.
- Lola