#panromance

[lookatthissh-t]

Okay so I just wanna know if my definitions for bi and pan are accurate or not

Bisexual/Biromantic: Attraction to all genders but with a preference

Pansexual/Panromantic: Attraction to all genders with no preference

This is my personal way to differenciate and I think it’s accurate? I’d like some other opinions though

[bearthdaypxrty]

☆ Funtime Freddy + grayasexual + panromantic + aesthetic post ☆ Happy Pride Month! ☆

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[bataddictedloony]

This is not how all bi people see it, this is just my personal take on why I identify more as bi rather than pan, even though both perfectly apply to how i feel towards whom I can be attracted to.

Pansexuality, or in my case panromance, is about ‘all genders’. Attraction to anyone despite gender. That’s the solid, unmovable definition, and it’s a good one. I can fall in love with anyone, and gender will have no say in that.

However to me personally, it implies that anyone can become my potential romantic partner. Even though that’s not part of the definition and no other pan people probably feel like that. I feel it does and that just doesn’t apply to me. There are a whole lot of people I’ll never fall in love with, for various reasons. Be it personality, opinions, views on non-binary people (aka moi), how they deal with neuro-a-typical people (hi). I feel like the pool of people I could potentially fall in love with is so small, it feels uncomfortable to identify with a term that implies so much openness and potential, yanno?

That’s why a term like ‘bi’ makes more sense to me. “More than one gender” implies a lot of people, but not everyone. Even though it’s talking about gender.

That’s kinda the thing about panromantic people and people who are gnc, isn’t it. It’s never about gender for us, gender doesn’t matter all that much. And yet every lgbtq+ Term we use is based on gender, what geneer we are, what gender we aren’t, what gender we can fall in love with, what gender we’re comfortable having sex with. It’s kinda… weird to put so much emphasis on gender, when gender is smthn you don’t conform with, especially when it comes to who you might want to date?

So… yeah. Panromance implies i can fall in love with anyone, even though it’s about gender, and biromance implies i can fall in love with anyone but not everyone, even though it’s actually about gender.

[purpletaco16]

I found this on whisper😂 So true

[agapantoblu]

Trying to explain Panromance to friend who knows nothing of the romance and sexuality spectrum...

Me: It's like being bisexual, but with a lot more kinds of people and a lot less sex.

Friend: Got it.

[addigni]

Hey here's the anon who asked you about tips for coming out to my friends. I did it like you told me, and I even told them about it after we had the topic bisexuality, because an other friend is. And I thought, well there will never be a moment as perfect as now. So I told them about pansexuality and then said the same exists, just in a romantic way. But they told me that I'm just making this up and that it's a phase like my asexuality. Now I know that they maybe accept my asxuality, but (1

(2) but they don't respect my asexuality and neither that I'm panromantic. They even made some jokes about it. But they're my friends so I'll just stick with the fact that they aren't open minded enough for such things. But at least my psychologist respects it and she even asked me a lot about these topics, because she wanted to learn more about it after I told her today. But thank you soo much for your tips. You know what? I feel better now. Have a lovely day!

hey nonny! aww thank you, i’m so glad i could help :) oh and i so know what you mean! the first time i told my close friends about asexuality, they understood it immediately but as soon as i went on about romantic attraction their immediate reaction was that i’m making it up. I think it’s mainly because the idea of “romantic attraction” is not really widespread. Unlike sexual orientations, including asexuality, chances are nearly everyone has heard of it before. Whereas they’ve only heard of romantic orientations from us and only us. So i can see how it could make them question the credibility of our statements (about romantic orientation and such).

my suggestion is show them credible, reliable, informative websites about romantic orientation, and for you specifically, panromance. If they see from a reliable source that panromanticism does in fact exist, and that there are other people like that too, hopefully it will make them believe in the existence of panromance and romantic orientation in general. They’ll see that you’re not just making it up on your own coz a legit site is saying the exact same thing you’ve told them

It’s kinda like if a friend of yours go up to you and say “The missing plane is found!!” you’d probably go to google to verify the information first before believing what your friend says y’know

[queercrew]

My Mom just told me “If you ever have a Boyfriend-- someday you want to have kids--”

and I just wanted to tell her that I don’t just like Boys

I’m Pan but I like girls the most and if I ever have a Girlfriend, I’m probably just gonna tell my mom “That’s my best friend”

[queyntegerhl-blog]

ugh, if i encounter one more person who thinks that ‘pan’ means ‘wants to fuck everything and everyone and lives in a constant filthy froth of arousal*’ then i am going to summon my dark leader, peter pan, and have him spirit you all to neverland to be drowned in a river thinking pan people are attracted to literally every single person is equivalent to thinking that gay people are attracted to literally every single person of the same gender. which is just ridiculous logic, because we live in a world that contains both gay men and boris johnson, and let’s face it, nobody likes boris johnson, not even boris johnson’s mum i sort of get straight people thinking like that, because straight people are stoopid, but sort it out, queer folks, you’re better than this. *not that there’s anything wrong with wanting to fuck everything and everyone and living in a constant filthy froth of arousal, of course. it’s just that some of us find the idea of living in even a semi-regular filthy froth of arousal exhausting