Tags: @aloudice, Dad!Aventurine x Parent!Reader, Established Relationship, Parenting, Family Fluff, Soft Aventurine, Parental Support, Gentle Reprimand, Disciplining, Love and Respect, Family Bond, Protective Aventurine.
[Inspired By]
Aventurine stood near the doorway of the living room, his eyes carefully following the scene unfolding before him. The soft hum of the evening air mingled with the occasional scolding tone of your voice as you gently but firmly reprimanded your child.
“You know better than this, sweetheart,” you said, keeping your tone calm but serious. “You can’t just go around breaking things because you're angry.”
The child, their small face scrunched up in frustration, crossed their arms tightly over their chest. Their eyes flickered with defiance before they muttered, “I hate you! I don’t care about your stupid rules!”
Aventurine’s lips pressed into a thin line, his mind whirring through the possibilities of how to handle the situation. He could see the irritation and hurt in your expression, a look that immediately triggered a protective instinct inside him.
The child, in a fit of anger, stepped toward you, fists clenched, eyes burning with rebellious fire. Without warning, they swung their hand toward you, aiming to hit you in an outburst of frustration.
Your heart dropped at the sudden move, but before the impact could land, Aventurine was there, his presence a calming yet assertive force in the room.
“Enough.” he said, his voice low but commanding. His figure seemed to fill the doorway as he approached, his demeanor far more imposing than it had been just moments ago. His hand reached out, gently grasping the child’s wrist mid-swing, halting them in their tracks.
“You do not lay a hand on them,” Aventurine continued, his gaze unwavering, now focused solely on his child. His voice was sharper, colder, but still held that underlying warmth that only you could recognize. “That may be your parent, but that is my spouse, and you will not be disrespecting them like that.”
The child’s eyes widened in shock, their defiance crumbling at the sternness in their father’s voice. Aventurine’s eyes flickered with a mix of concern and disappointment, yet his love for you shone clearly through his words.
“You need to learn respect,” he said, kneeling down to meet the child’s eye level, his hand still holding their wrist. “This kind of behavior is not acceptable, not in this house, and certainly not toward your other parent.”
You stood quietly, your heart swelling with love and relief. Aventurine had always been able to maintain control, but his fierceness in protecting you, in teaching their child to respect boundaries, made you feel seen, cherished.
The child slowly lowered their gaze, their anger subsiding, replaced by a quiet sadness.
“I’m sorry…” they muttered, their voice barely above a whisper. “I didn’t mean it.”
Aventurine released their wrist, placing a gentle hand on their shoulder. “I know you didn’t mean it,” he said softly, his tone shifting to one of understanding. “But you need to understand that actions have consequences. Words have weight. We don’t lash out at people we love.”
The room fell into a brief silence, the tension easing as Aventurine’s words sank in. He turned to you, a soft smile creeping onto his lips, the playful gleam in his eyes returning.
“You’re okay?” he asked, concern lacing his voice as he reached out to cup your cheek with one hand.
You nodded, your heart warming from his unwavering support. “I’m fine. Thank you, Aventurine.”
His smile deepened, his eyes softening. “You know I would do anything for you, right?”
“Yeah, I know.”
With a soft laugh, he wrapped his arms around you, pulling you into a tender embrace. His child, now standing a little further away, seemed to be processing what had just happened. Aventurine’s hand gently rested on your back, a symbol of the unity that kept you all together, no matter how complicated things got.
In that quiet moment, you realized that, despite the challenges of raising a child together, there was no greater feeling than having a partner who would always stand by you—someone who loved you and your family, and who would protect you from anything that tried to tear you apart.
When parents (don’t) support their kids’ entertainment dreams
If you are a kid who wants to be in the entertainment industry and your parents or guardians don’t support your aspirations, you may either give up entirely or have to wait until you are an adult/independent before you can work on pursuing your goals.
While it is understandable that a parent might not want to put their child into the entertainment industry, refusing to support their creativity whatsoever can create frustration in the aspirant, and may contribute to psychological blocks that prevent them from pursuing their dreams when they are older.
Siblings Billie Eilish and FINNEAS were supported by their parents to be creative, being allowed to stay up late if they were creating, and with their mother teaching them songwriting. Ocean Eyes, which Billie sings and Finneas wrote and produced, was initially released when Finneas was 18 and Billie was 13. Billie is now 22, has over 100M monthly listeners on Spotify, her third studio album debuted at number 2 on the Billboard 200 chart and as well as topping the charts in over 20 countries. While many of Billie’s songs have dealt with themes of depression and self-loathing (e.g. idontwannabeyouanymore, lovely), there were also countless examples of braggadociousness (e.g. you should see me in a crown, COPYCAT, bad guy), and in my opinion, that self-belief or at least its projection, contributed to her success.
Dallon Weekes performs as I DONT KNOW HOW BUT THEY FOUND ME, and knew since the day he saw a guitar in a shop window at age 5 that he wanted to be a musician. His Mormon parents were not encouraging of his musical aspirations and so he did not own a guitar until he saved his own money and bought one at age 15, to his parents’ chagrin. While he wrote and performed for years before gaining much mainstream attention, and there were other reasons than lack of parental support for career delays, iDKHOW’s debut album was released when he was 39. Much of Dallon Weekes’ previous work was released with his band The Brobecks, and looking at the songs he wrote, there are often themes of self-doubt and anxiety (e.g. Better Than Me, I’d Be A Punk [If My Mom Would Let Me]). His work as iDKHOW tends to portray a much more confident persona, a devil-may-care attitude, perhaps best exemplified in debut single Choke, his biggest release to date, as well Absinthe, SPKOTHDVL and others.
Besides the material delay in being able to pursue your creative aspirations, a lack of parental support can cause a belief that you don’t deserve to have the fulfilment of your desires, and that who you are as an artist and as a person is undeserving of free expression or the fruits of your labour (not to speculate on how the artists here mentioned personally felt in response to their parents’ support or lack thereof).
I think people with disabilities who have disabilities that may impair their ability to take care of their children deserve to have better resources or a resource to help them with childcare, a live in individual or someone to come help them daily with parenthood, transportation for their children, grants and funding like child support, etc.
I know of the debate about if people with disabilities should be encouraged not to have children or in some cases have their children taken away from them because they have a hard time taking care of them or can’t fully or easily do everything an able bodied parent may be able to do for their children like travel to school or extracurricular events, come to their child’s aid quickly at sudden moments or in the middle of the night with having to transfer themselves into wheelchairs, etc. etc.
This also goes for people with disabilities who ALSO have children with disabilities who have special needs or need extra support as well. There needs to be more accommodations for people with disabilities who are parents!!
There are people with disabilities who have children of their own who aren’t married or don’t have the support systems they have every right to so that they can show up for their children or be a the best parent they can possibly be.
Over the summer, my mom got on tik tok, and lately she's been sending me a lot of LGBT and neurodivergent videos.
It's really nice to see that's the kind of content she's surrounding herself with. It feels like now, she's not only accepting, but embracing these sides of me. It makes me really happy to see it... I love my mom 🥺
Anti-abortion advocates who purport to be feminists often present a false dichotomy saying that we can only have either liberal abortion laws or social support for families and children. Yet the facts, as always, are hostile to their position.
Let’s look at Save the Children’s 2015 ranking of the top 10 best countries for birthing and caregiving parents (link, cw gendered language) then match them up with their abortion laws and practices:
1. Norway: The best country in the world to give birth and raise children allows abortion for any reason up to 12 weeks.
2. Finland: abortion is allowed based on health, age, and other broad socioeconomic grounds including financial strain
3. Iceland: allowed up to 22 weeks for any reason
4. Denmark: up to 12 weeks for any reason
5. Sweden: up to 18 weeks for any reason
6. Netherlands: no legal gestational limits, five-day waiting period and two doctors must agree after the first trimester
7. Spain: up to 14 weeks for any reason
8. Germany: not permitted on the books, but in practice permitted in the first trimester after mandatory counseling
9. Australia: state laws very, but surgical abortions up to 12 weeks are generally available
10. Belgium: up to 12 weeks for any reason with mandatory counseling
As you can see, the best countries in the world for pregnant people and birthing parents are also the ones that respect their autonomy and right to choose whether to be parents. Who’d have thought?
