#peopleing

[indecisive-neurodivergent]

social

any fellow introverts whom llitterly wont tlak all day but then you find that right group of ppl (ie a queen group) and feel *fuled* after??? like i just went out to my local event, and it was a larger group then normal and i had an amazing time havent had that much fun in forever. had a solid group of folk i knew. real chaotic fun. and i feel awsome but avrage day i will be practically mute all day and avoid people like a pleauge.

[loleverlasting]

[bibliolithid]

It’s that time of year again

When NaNoWriMo is waiting behind the curtains of Time, just itching to jump out and shout “Boo!”

While I have never gotten through more than, like, two days of NaNoWriMo; trying and failing rapidly is equivalent to trying and succeeding slowly, so I present two options for this year’s bloody sacrifice upon the altar of learning-how-to-write:

1. A gaming group in 2030 playing magitech Shadowrun-with-the-serial-numbers-filed-off. Explores how to live with high-confidence predictions about the future. Featuring romance, drama, bioterrorism, self-modifying robots, AI with a Growth Mindset, Megacorporations, cyborgs punching wizards, and Nerds.

2. In the grim darkness of the (alternate universe) 1700s, there is only war. And imperialism. And biotechnology. And demons. And reality-bending Artifacts. But mostly the war and imperialism. Enter [Protagonist Name Here] who will learn important life lessons like “How many combat stimulants can you inject before you have a heart attack?” and “Does it really matter what the Corruption’s true motives are, when it is trying to turn your bones into butterflies?” all while trying not to accidentally pulp their own limbs with their newly “gifted” Artifact or get “accidentally” fragged by their new squad-mates. 

Do you guys have any opinion on which one I should try?

[claar-bookdragonwitch]

Peopleing is HARD!

As an aspie, i struggle with relationships (friendships, romantic, platonic, work partnerships) and reading people and their intentions. For this, i created a short list of general rules to help me avoid confusion, conflict, and mostly, being constantly broken hearted.

1. If someone does not actively show their appreciation/ affection /love for you, then they most likely don't love you. Stop trying to show your love for them.

2. If someone does not actively seek for your company, they do not want it. Stop seeking theirs.

3. If someone never checks up on you, they are not interested in knowing how you are. Stop checking up on them or updating them about what is going on with you.

4. If someone constantly brings you down or makes you feel inadequate, stop making efforts to please them or seek their approval.

5. If someone calls you their friend but never includes you in activities or outings with friends, then you are only acquaintances.

6. Know your own worth and be kind to everyone, but do not expect them to reciprocate.

7. Establish clear, healthy limits about how much of yourself you are willing to offer to others, and know when to say no without fear or guilt.

8. Remember that anything that is not mutual becomes toxic and abusive.

9. Seek the friendship of those who accept you as you are, recognize your virtues, forgive your faults, and feed your soul.

10. ALWAYS go with your gut. If something feels not right, if something is making you unhappy, walk away.

[bibliolithid]

Oh yay. :3

[bibliolithid]

(Taking your previous ask as an open invite to ask invasive questions): Carpet, drapes, matching?

I officially invite anyone to ask me invasive questions (terms and conditions may apply on answers).

Currently, yes, the carpets do match the drapes, outside of a little sunbleaching. :P

2/5, only really invasive if they don’t match.

[bibliolithid]

Perception?

Do you have any tips for running Skill Challenges?

4e introduced the skill challenge and has some good notes on it (5e update link)

Some advice that’s probably not in the 4e sourcebooks (I’m not sure, because, come on, do you think I read them?) from Blades in the Dark:

The use of Clocks to indicate progress, this also allows you to tick extra marks when a player “critcally succeeds” in some way

If a roll is under the DC by five or less, give them a success but also a consequence, rather than a flat failure, this keeps things moving

There are more consequences than damage. You can have them spend money, use up items, and consume spell slots and ability charges. You can put ticks on a “danger” Clock, give them conditions (exhaustion, poisoned), worsen their position (you slip and are now hanging over the chasm by the tips of your fingers), or introduce narrative complications (the dragon hears you, the room is now on fire, the guards arrive)    

P.S. Traps are a lot more fun as puzzles or combat modifiers than straight up skill challenges.