Think about the types of feedback you can get. You can write a paper, well--not a paper--you can do writing--maybe a paper--and not show it to anybody--just want to write and get my thoughts straight. Maybe later I'll throw it to somebody, but now it's just for me. Not only is there no feedback, it's not even going to an audience.
Then in contrast I can write something, and I can give it to an audience to read because I want their help, only there's a special kind of help that most people don't know how to give and most people don't know how to ask for, which is to say, "Please read it, and say thank you," and actually what's most useful is, "Please let me read this out loud to you and when I'm done, say thank you." And that doesn't sound like much help. It's great help, it doesn't take much time, it's very simple, but the act of reading it out loud in the presence of a person, I mean, earlier I was talking about reading out loud for yourself because it's so useful for writing, but reading out loud in the presence of a person is magic. It just helps you see your words much more clearly, and they don't have to do anything except say thank you, and it helps if they can mean it because you've given them a gift of your writing and they should say thank you. So that's the second kind of audience. This is the relationship between writing and audience.
The third kind of feedback--the third relationship--I write it, and I don't just keep it to myself. I give it to people. Ideally I read it out loud to people, and then I ask them, "Please tell me some things you like about this writing. Tell me the parts that were interesting to you. Tell me the sentences that you liked. Tell me the words that you thought were strong or good. Tell me whatever you like. Find some things even if you don't think it was great. Do me a favor. Find some things that are pretty good in here that you like or that you could like. So I want some feedback, but I don't want any criticism." Now that's a discipline too, it's a very strong discipline to learn to ask for that, because you have to be pushy because they're going to start criticizing. "No, no, no, wait, wait, I only want to hear what's good. I only want to hear what you liked. Later on maybe next week, I'll get some criticism; just tell me what you like."
This is very powerful. This is very powerful, you have to be strong to ask for it, and you have to make do it. It's very powerful because this is how people learn. If someone tells you what you did wrong, maybe you're trying to learn some skill like hitting a tennis ball, and if they just tell you what you did wrong, you can try and stop doing it. "Don't do that." That can help--don't do it--but that doesn't help you do it right. The way you learn is if someone tells you what you did right, so you need to hear some good bits of our writing. That's how we'll learn, and from a teacher's point of view, the teacher who gives that kind of feedback, and teachers need to learn to give that kind of feedback... They would say, "You know, it's not such a good paper and I could criticize it next week, but right now I'm just going to tell you the good bits because I'm going to point to what you've done right in this paper and all I'm going to say is do more of that, do more of that, do more of that." That's how you learn. Do more of something you did right.
And then the fourth stage is I write it, I read it, they tell me what's good, and they tell me what doesn't work so well, and I'm getting criticism. But by that time, I can benefit from the criticism. So the most killing thing about peer feedback from peer--well feedback from peers or from teachers--is if everybody jumps into criticism. And not only does that make you want to jump out the window, it's not good for your writing. We need the private writing, we need the reading out loud and only thank you, we need the reading or giving and only hearing what's good, and then we can benefit from the criticism. So that actually is a pretty good overview of some of the crucial principles for feedback or evaluation.