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[positivityforantiendos]

i wanted to say that with the announcement of SimplyPlural shutting down, everything will be ok in the end

it will be hard for some people (i had to take a break due to the news) but it will work out. whether you move to another app (ampersand, octocon, pluralkit, tupperbox, etc), choose to use a notes app/discord/twinote, or use a paper method instead, it will be ok

stay safe everyone <3

[positivityforantiendos]

i hope everyone had a good pride month

next month (july) is disability pride month and for a lot of us, cdds are disabling so make sure to take care of yourself

[positivityforantiendos]

today i survived

that's my achievement

i'm proud of you for achieving it too

[positivityforantiendos]

a blog showed up on my dash and i want to talk about what i saw vaguely (i don't condone harassing anyone which is why i'm not naming the blog)

i also apologise as this isn't the usual positive post. it's a little more serious than usual but i want to make my stance on this very clear

it is never okay to fakeclaim someone if they haven't outright stated themselves that they are faking

yes, there are people out there who fake being a system. people who pretend to have alters and pretend to split. people who are vocal about this

however, not every faker is vocal about faking, and you will do more harm if you start calling out people you think are faking because you will inevitably call out someone who isn't

i'm not talking about endos who have cdds and are either in denial or mislead, if you call out people you think are fakers, you will end up calling out people with cdds and you will do a lot of harm to that person. this isn't hypothetical. i speak from experience. i have been fakeclaimed by someone who had never heard of DID before i told him what it was. it did a lot of damage to my system and i'm still working through it over a year later.

that may seem extreme, but when you already doubt yourself, someone saying you're faking can deepen that wound

TL;DR never fakeclaim anyone because you cannot ever truly know if they are faking until they outright state they are. you can disagree with me but this is my stance on the matter

[positivityforantiendos]

remember that you can enforce your DNI

if you get reblogs/replies/ask/interactions from people that break your DNI you can enforce it. you can remove the interaction, block them, and if you want to you can call them out for it

block tags for takes you don't agree with so you don't see them

you can curate your internet experience how you want to and that is the best thing to do

stay safe, and i hope everyone has a good weekend <3

[positivityforantiendos]

Why did I make this? - DNI below cut

i find that sometimes the internet can be really overwhelming and negative, with discourse and ranting and a lot of news (it's important to follow the news, but it can be too overwhelming a lot of the time)

its important to have spaces for those but sometimes its important to also have spaces for positivity, and as i didn't know of one specifically safe for anti endos, i wanted to make one

this blog is run by someone with DID so i get that having a dissociative disorder sucks, but this is for any positivity, both system related and not

the positivity can include, but is not limited to:

system specific positivity

steps in healing from trauma

achievements

things that happened to you

things you did for someone else

just any positive words you want to share

and more

i think any small thing, including making to the next day, is a huge achievement and you should be proud for getting through the days

you do not have to be a system to send something in. as long as you respect that this is a space for anti endos

as this is a space for positivity, i am kindly requesting that people dont send in vents. for spaces to vent, i recommend @antiendovents and @antiendosafespace, both amazing blogs that are part of the best spaces on the internet. other awesome anti endo sys blogs that i love includes @this-is-cdd-ableism and @sys-coded-songs

DNI, signoffs, and more info below

why flowers? i like flowers, that's all

i will use i/me and we/us interchangebly, but mainly i/me

I'm based in GMT timezone

i will block liberally. blocking is very important to curating your internet experience and i will be using it to make mine a positive place

signoffs

- ⭐️🔭 (#pfae ⭐️🔭) - 🌾🫎 (#pfae 🌾🫎) - 🫀⛪ (#pfae 🫀⛪) - PURPLE ⭐ (#pfae PURPLE ⭐)

DNI

endogenics

willogenics

polyminds

radqueers

racists

ableists

homophobes

transphobes (this includes people that use TME/TMA)

syscringe users

anyone that is pro or neutral on any of the above

[positivityforantiendos]

Our parents have started watching videos about DID to understand us. Our dad sent us a video from YouTube, and told us "i hope i can understand better now. This video made me tear up." They're trying to understand. They're learning and understanding and respecting our alters. Our system is so lucky

that's amazing and i'm genuinely so glad they're trying. you deserve it and i hope it continues to go well and they continue to try <3

[positivityforantiendos]

i'm a little late but happy LGBTQIA+ pride month to all the queer, trans, and intersex systems out there (and anyone i've forgotten i apologise)

a reminder that radqueers and transIDs are not welcome here, even during pride month. being a system is not an identity you can claim

stay safe and be proud <3