#phask

[otherwaybabe]

They have been together 16 years and Phil can spank dan with a Saran wrap roll and Dan looses his train of thought.

SIXTEEN YEARS and they're still basically in the honeymoon phase. Which I guess just isn't a phase for them.

What the fuck

[otherwaybabe]

If u won the golden ball what would u ask them!!!

I'd ask Phil about his side of their story. I mean we know that Dan cyber stalked him but we don't know why Phil made the choices he made. Maybe, if asked the right way, we would actually get the answer.

[otherwaybabe]

I thought this would interest you I found it on YouTube it’s a sort of ancient video compilation of Phil and gender roles discussions it starts tame and gets completely utterly devastating

https://youtu.be/WSy30ektcWo?si=VfjWg7Fkd7yT2Bfh

Oh.

That's....yeah.

I'm so glad he's letting himself explore all this now. Sounds like he's wanted to for a long time but been too scared.

We always talk about his family being supportive, and obviously they are, but it also seems like they're a bit traditional and he just kind of closed the door on any type of gender expression.

I didn't realize that the phlonde was part of it, but watching this, it totally was, and is. And that's also maybe even why the idea of dying his hair an unnatural color is taking him so long.

Wow, I'm gonna be thinking about this for a while.

[otherwaybabe]

screaming bc the selfie they shared from the flower show is of *them in front of* the plant/rock as a metaphor for getting through mental health struggles ....... why is no one talking about this .........

RIGHT????? I ALSO NEED TO TALK ABOUT THIS!!!!

That was clearly so important to both of them!

[otherwaybabe]

hot take: Unless the source material (in this case Dan and Phil) is explicitly aimed at minors (they are not), than the main tags should be for everyone. The internet isn't a safe space, it never was and it never will be. If you are a minor and you walk into a bar (a fandom not aimed at minors), which is clearly a space for adults. Than no one can expect the adults in the bar to suddenly make sure everything is safe and "appropriate" for minors. I understand that it isn't always as clear cut and black and white. But Dan and Phil have never said their content is for minors, they don't make content that is for minors. Any attempt about being more "family friendly", is them trying to stay monetised on youtube. It's clear (especially with them creating a patreon) that they want their content to be more for adults. And I'm sure that the majority of their audience also are adults.

EXACTLY! I don't understand this argument at all. If minors are here, that's kinda on them. Dan and Phil are making a safe space for sexual queer couples content.

Phil did the safe for minors thing. And now he has moved on and he swears and is horny and talks about sex and that's not his content anymore.

If we can't talk about sex in a phandom about a phodcast about gay sex then wtf are we doing?

[otherwaybabe]

sorry but the "can you make me feel better" is sooooo insane to me. like for some reason I'm surprised they shared it with us?? like ik obviously they're sweet with eachother, that comes with the territory, but them being able to talk about stuff like that now (even if it really is pretty insignificant and small and typical) is crazy. they make eachother feel better :((((( they ask the other to make them feel better :((((( they like and find comfort in eachother why is this wild to me

I've read so many phics where Dan is scared to wake Phil up cause it's harder for him to sleep or he's in pain or whatever, but this showed me that those phics are just categorically wrong.

Neither is scared to mess with the other's sleep or stress the other out cause they are stressed out.

If they need each other they will tell each other, they don't hide things that might be silly or confusing or weird. Dan doesn't think that his bad dream isn't worth being reassured about.

I just....

[otherwaybabe]

You probably noticed this, but I thought of you and all the fighting off of D&P poly truthers you’ve done. The fact that Dan used the other couple asking for an open relationship to indicate that their relationship was bad/falling apart/not aa good as his and Phil’s says something I think.

My favorite moment. I actually said that exact thing in my group chat. I was like "oh how sad for the poly truthers"

I feel like that comment should end the discussion once and for all. Though they definitely enjoy making fun of it and will continue to do that.

[otherwaybabe]

I’m pretty sure the video they’re going is for sam and colbys week in romania, here’s all the evidence so far:

1. They said they’ll “appear” in smth which implies something pre existing that they are collabing with someone on

2. Romania to london is 3/4 hours making it a feasible day trip and this Ryanair is known for this route which is the airline they mentioned being on

3. They said it was for later this year which suggests its further down which makes sense since this is for Halloween

4. Sam and colbly were in romania around the same time this trip would’ve happened

5. romania is known for a soup they have as well

I don't know who they are, but that is a great theory, it sounds like!