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I had to lock in on my masters program this semester, so I haven’t been able to post as much 😭I’m sorry for that. I take my board exams next summer so even this fall I’ll be locked in on that as well. I think it’s best to start studying for boards 6 months before. I love social media, but not more than my career.

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international move: 🚂 1st stop, hair

Me and my stylist have been experimenting on different styles to wear as I’m moving somewhere with a colder, wetter, climate. I had to be realistic with myself about my hair texture, and the styles that I wanted overseas. There’s no way I could upkeep straight or wavy.

I made the decision to get bundles that match my natural hair to do a leave out sew in. We decided to do session 1/2 to see what we liked about this and what we want to change before the final install. After traveling the city we’re heading to, I realized how many people embraced their natural texture, so I chose to as well.

O.M.G. The amount of compliments I get! My stylist truly knew how to embody what I wanted. My mentor signed off on the style and said that it truly captured me in the best way. I trust the opinions of older black women over anyone else. Especially with me wanting to push for more in my career.

I did not spare any expense when it came to bundle prices. Many times good hair does cost more. I did shop around though, don’t get me wrong. But I quickly realized it was going to be a pretty penny. Like when I say, girls, I still can’t believe how it frames my face so well. My coworkers all asked where I got the hair and I DONT gatekeep. But of course, they kept bristling at the cost. Hundreds now saves you hundreds later.

Next time I’m absolutely leaving more hair out to be more versatile, but I’m glad she suggested a test pilot with this hair.

And most people would say, 4c is so hard! I literally get up, mist my hair with water, hand rake some moose and gel through my hair and I’m ready to go! I absolutely did lots of research on this hair before I got it, and realized quickly that 4c hair loves moisture.

I also researched products that interact well and define curls perfectly. I took my time for weeks researching this style. This actually led me away from black owned products, but I’ll explain that another time.

This hair is what picture is to me, valuing time. It’s forced me to make more time for self care, and to be more patient with myself. I’m really grateful for a stylist that was willing to explore with me, and those around me I trust that gave their honest commentary. ❤️

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I’m here to say….if you’re not committed to getting extensions that match your hair texture, you’re doing yourself a disservice by trying to blend your hair with a texture that doesn’t match. Be realistic about your texture.

That said, unless you’re willing to cover your hair completely (wig) or do a chemical treatment to match the texture you’re using, you will be doing your real hair a disservice.

I want us all to explore different styles and etc. but take care of your hair. No wayyy you should be flat ironing your hair every day on HIGH HEAT to match silky tresses when your hair has more texture.

Trends will change as we get older, and sometimes you want to wear your natural hair. Don’t make it more difficult for future you!

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The closer my international move gets, the more treatments I’m booking!

Can’t wait to give an overall update of what my beauty checklist is before a move!❤️❤️

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everytime a girl finds my page, an angel gains their wings and a man ends up on his knees

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I was so hot with brown highlights, unfortunately that’s my best color I must go back.

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Hypergamy Bootcamp Level-Up Edition Day 5

Expanded note for the hypergamy girls:

When rest is treated like a luxury, collapse becomes the consequence.

We don’t talk enough about what happens when you wait too long to rest.

If you only rest when you’ve hit a wall, it’s already too late. That’s not balance. That’s recovery. And for women trying to move intentionally, whether in career, relationships, or lifestyle, constantly operating from recovery mode will cost you.

Let’s look at the outcome.

Your energy gets messy. Your mood shifts. You start snapping at people you usually charm. You stop thinking clearly. And suddenly you’re exhausted, making decisions from pressure instead of peace.

When rest is something you feel like you have to earn, you keep pushing past your own limits just to feel like you deserve a break. That mindset will drain you quietly. And then all at once.

It’s not just physical either. Without real rest, your softness becomes performative. Your presence gets thin. And what used to feel aligned starts to feel like a chore.

You don’t rest because you’re weak. You rest because you understand what it takes to sustain the version of yourself you’ve worked hard to become. And honestly, if you’re trying to level up, you cannot afford to look polished while running on fumes.

Rest is how you stay sharp. Rest is how you stay strategic. Rest is how you stay composed.

How to prevent burnout before it sneaks up on you:

• Schedule rest the same way you schedule meetings or deadlines

• Pay attention to early signs like irritability, foggy thinking, or emotional flatness

• Create quiet moments in your day that are just for you

• Give yourself permission to unplug without explaining

• Rest isn’t just sleep. Sometimes it’s space, silence, or stillness

• Stop thinking exhaustion is proof of your worth

Remember:

• Rest is not a reward. It is a necessary tool

• If you wait too long, you will burn out

• Rest protects your presence, softness, and clarity

• You do not need to break down to justify caring for yourself

• A woman who rests regularly moves with long-term power

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She who rests wisely never performs her exhaustion.

Hypergamylations Bootcamp: Level-up Edition Day 5

*in depth expanded note dropped