kind of asking for advice, how do we explain to those we're friends with that we are plural? and where can we be.. ourselves?
Hello. We have a post that we will link which covers many aspects of coming out as a system to loved ones. It goes over more details than I could write here comfortably, so I’ll just link it.
[ Acknowledgements: Thank you so much to everyone who shared their experiences, tips, and advice regarding coming out as a system! We read a
As far as where you can (safely and happily) be yourselves, we don’t have an answer when it comes to physical, real-life locations. It is an unfortunate fact that plurality is not commonly understood or accepted in today’s society. We ourselves are only out to a small number of people in our lives, and have faced some severe repercussions for coming out to people we thought we could trust, who ended up not being accepting of us at all.
However, in today’s internet age, it is quite possible to find spaces to explore your identities, express yourselves, and unashamedly be yourselves online. There is a bustling, thriving community of systems here on Tumblr - you can find them through the hashtags the community tends to use. Here are a few of them:
#sysblr, #plurality, #pluralgang, #actually plural, #system things, #multiplicity, #actually multiple
This just scratches the surface. You can search through the hashtags for specific origins and types of plural experiences to find even more systems sharing their experiences and carving out a space for themselves here on Tumblr.
We’ll also gladly recommend the subreddit r/plural, if you are a Redditor or would like to become one. That subreddit is a space for systems of all sorts, and we’ve found it to be a diverse and welcoming space.
Many systems also congregate in Discord servers created and managed by fellow systems. We don’t have any specific servers we can recommend at this time, but if anyone who sees this is a part of a plural Discord server and would like to share that info, that would be most welcome.
When searching for spaces online, we would not recommend sites like Astraea’s Web, Kinhost, or Power to the Plurals/The Plural Association. The last of which is the only one with some sort of social component, but we do feel it’s worth mentioning if you’re going to be seeking out plural community online. We have gone into more detail about these sites and our issues with them in the post below.
The Plural Association/Power to the Plurals Reasoning: TPA (and by extension Power to the Plurals) claims to be a nonprofit, but does not r
We do hope this post can work as a jumping off point to help you find more places online where you can safely and comfortably express yourselves as plural. Followers, you are welcomed and encouraged to add on to this post if you know of any more places where systems can exist and express themselves online.