Oct 14, 2024
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Polyamory & Breakups
I don't talk about being poly very much on here but I've been wanting to make a post about my experience with polyamory and breaking up while being multiple relationships. Break ups happen no matter the type of relationships you have and they happen for a lot of different reasons. Here are some of the things that I found made breaking up while dating other people harder:
If your support systems are mainly monogamous people, they might not understand what you're going through. In my experience, mono friends attempted to comfort me in my break up by reminding me that I still have my other partner. Others also suggested that now that I'm only in one relationship I can try to be monogamous.
Your break up will likely be hard on your remaining partner(s). I feel like no one likes to see someone they love be sad and hurt. Especially considering that they wont be able to make it go away.
How you and your partner handle your grief together is important to your relationship and its growth. I felt compelled to push my remaining partner away, to hide my grief from them, to try and minimize the hurt they saw. Luckily, my partner was still there for me to lean on and wasn't hurt by my retreat into myself.
You don't have to rush to "get over it" or to start dating a new people. My ex and I were together for a year, I know I'm not over it yet and I found that some poly people would try to encourage me to get back out there before I was ready.
These are just some of my thoughts. Lastly, I want to leave you with this:
Your process and feelings through a breakup are valid. Just as valid as any mono breakup. 💖
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