#poly questions

[shanky2panky]

I do not HATE poly relationships. I simply do not understand them. I can barely handle dating ONE person, how tf am I gonna handle 2+?? Like, the emotional and mental dread I felt dating one person at a time was unreal. Poly people, do your relationships last? How are they constructed? Do you have a spread sheet? These are genuine questions by the way, I’m not trying to be an asshole. Also, I know some people are gonna say ‘oh, well if they’re causing you that much stress, they aren’t for you-“ ZIP YOUR LIPS!

[somegaywizard]

Random question for the hyper specific sexuality label community here on tumblr,

What is it called when you yourself are not necessary poly but your partner being poly and having other partners doesn't really bother you and sometimes even feels nice???

Asking for a friend...

[11663333]

So if person A&B are in a relationship and so are A&C, but B&C are not, is that polyamary or what you would call that an open relationship??

[fuji09]

I have a problem, I keep developing crushes on people even though I am in a committed monogamous relationship, does this mean I'm poly? I can't help but feel incredibly attracted to all types of people and idk if I'm just a pervert hah pls save me

Ok, first dear anon, you are not a pervert.

Second, you could be poly but also being attracted to other people while in a relationship is normal. Attraction doesn't just go away once in a relationship. Crushes and romantic feelings, yeah you probably are poly. Being in love with multiple people at the same time is what polyamory is.

Now, you're in a mono relationship, are you content with being in a mono relationship? Do you think your partner might be open to opening the relationship? Identifying yourself is the first step but now you need to figure out what will make you happy.

Talking to your partner and figuring out what's right for both of y'all is a good idea. Some poly people can be happy in mono relationships, some can't.

If you have any more questions or want more advice feel free to ask! Also you're welcome to DM me if you want, no judgement here and I'm always happy to help other new poly peeps 💜

[demisexual-polyamory]

Poly Questions from More Than Two

1: Have I ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time?

My first instinct is to say “yes.” But then I remember I was feeling sexual and companionate attraction, which only later became romantic attraction. But that yes, this had been while I was still very much in love with a partner with whom I had a deep romantic, intellectual, emotional and physical attraction.

So, yes. I have felt this way. Given that I had only been exposed to Polyamory in the merest of references in a fantasy novel at the time, I also felt absolutely awful that I felt this way. It was during two separate periods in which I was single, over ten years ago.

I don’t want to feel torn up about that again. Nor do I want to cause anyone else to feel that way.

[queerpunk-kitten]

New Thought

So T and I are talking about doing a poly tindr. Like the two of us as a couple.

Tips/advice on the best way to do that? Obvi hookups are chill but also want to attract people that are poly friendly?

[caramelgod-blog]

Polyy

So I'm in this relationship I'm person c, I'm dating a and a's dating b. So im confused if that means im poly as well cause im comfortable being in this relationship or if it mean im just mono cause I'm not the one dating 2 or more people?? I dont know alot about poly relationships and I'm trying to learn the correct behavior in it mostly what's healthy and unhealthy for me to do. If yall dont mind can I get like help??

[roroslillife]

30 question non-monogamy challenge

Original by @polyhorde, reblogged from @austerefairy

29. What is one thing about your partner(s) that drives you nuts? What’s one thing that makes you smile?

-Gosh just one thing? Haha. I guess when they team up and tease me, or like, hit on me and high-five eachother, just silly little things. But it drives me nuts in a good way, idk they're my brats and I love them.

-‎OH! They both like touching my tummy when their hands are cold, that DEFINITELY drives me nuts!! Stop that!

-‎Something that makes me smile...when they're sweet and tender. Alex will just look at me and say she loves me, or compliment me, in this soft sincere way that always catches me off guard. Or Jess will just wrap her arm around my waist and pull me toward her, call me cute names and kiss me. Just sweet simple moments when they're each being romantic and cheesy in their own ways, I blush and die every time 💕

30. They’re about to get on a plane – what do you say?

-Do you have earplugs? Music? Call me the second you land. I love you both