Wednesday, December, 14, 2016
In life, you are going to meet all sorts of people, and every person you meet is going to impact you in a way shape or form. There is a famous saying that goes: “in 1 year you are a combination of the 5 closest people around you” Who we are on a Persona level is largely dictated by the people we interact with, and the experiences we have. thus we should be paying close attention to who we surround our selves with because you are going to be effected by them, by the energy they bring, and by the experiences they give you.
When we first start meeting people at an earlier age, usually we lack the experience and the social acuity to read people well, so we end up interacting with some people that give us some negative experiences. we all had friends that became ex- friends or even turned into enemies unfortunately, there are ex- lovers, etc… , EXES of all sorts.
Going through these kind of situations were we realize we misjudged a person, or getting betrayed by someone close to us feels really bad to say the least, it makes us feel naive and foolish, it gives us a lot of pain, which is OK to feel and is a natural thing of course. however the mistake that we tend to make is in our reaction to what happened! depending on what kind of wound we had, we tend to close our selves from the world.
We stop believing in friendship and start thinking every friend will eventually betray us, we stop believing in love because we are afraid to be hurt again, we start seeing the world as a dark, negative place because of the bad experiences that we had, we start approaching the world in a negative manner. I certainly fell into this kind of mentality at a time in my life.
The worst thing about this is that it will become a SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY ! meaning if you think people are bad and negative, chances are they will be bad and negative to you ! because that is the kind energy you resonate with, that’s what you are attracting to yourself, so you keep having more negative experiences to serve as proof that the world is a bad and negative place !!!!! and the cycle of pain will keep on repeating itself. lol (this part is really key to understand, read it again if you need to!)
( the girl who thinks men are assholes and keeps on dating asshole after asshole, the guy who thinks women are sluts and keeps on finding sluts only that cheat on him, the person who thinks friendship doesn’t exist and keeps on getting betrayed by people around him… etc… etc…etc…) SELF FULFILLING PROPHECIES
hhhhooooo ! now you see why this mentality can be dangerous and wont get you anywhere ha! that’s how i came to the belief that i have no choice but to be Positive! lol The hard thing of course is finding the thing to be positive for in these kind of situations, how could you be positive when you just got betrayed or heart broken, etc.. well each person has their own way, i encourage you to experiment and find your way to see the Positive aspect.
My way is to take it as a LESSON ! the positive thing for me is that i LEARNED something from that situation, no matter how bad your situation is, there is always a lesson to be learned, a lesson that will make you smarter for the future, you learn much more from negative experiences than from good ones ! with time you become wiser and learn how to avoid the negative experiences without closing yourself to the world ! every person you meet in life will serve a purpose in your life, some of these purposes comes in the forms of lessons! everything happens for a reason, the reason that bad incident happened to you is so you could LEARN something and be smarter for the future, life is the greatest teacher. :)
i would like to end with a quote i read somewhere: “be soft, do not let the world make you hard, do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness”
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