Is OCD Destroying Your Relationships?
Most people think OCD means compulsions like washing hands and knocking on wood. However, most people with OCD do not suffer from compulsions but are haunted by intrusive thoughts that just keep entering their heads.
Sometimes the thoughts can be non-stop, rendering them unable to focus on anything else. Otherwise, they can be crippled by irrational fears, such as fear of death, doing something bad, or contamination.
Loving someone with OCD can be challenging, as it is always hard to know at what point to be supportive, and at what point to hold them to account with regards to receiving treatment.
Whether you are a sufferer or a partner, the following scenarios may seem familiar:
Fear of death: A sufferer may have recurrent intrusive thoughts that he, she, or a loved one is going to die. One patient of ours would not get on a plane because of fear that if he left the state, his wife would die.
Fear that something bad would happen: One sufferer did not cook because of fear that she would set fire to the house. She would keep checking the stove and did not want her husband to cook.
Fear of contamination: Cleaning the utensils over and over due to fear that themselves, their partner, and their children would be contaminated; Washing the dishes again after the partner has washed them.
Fear of losing their job: Recurrent intrusive thoughts about job loss could lead to starting early, working late, and fear of spending money even if there is no evidence that their employment is unstable.
The sufferer may constantly need validation and reassurance, which over time can become tiring and annoying to the partner. The need for reassurance can lead to a loss of attraction.
Avoidance of intimacy due to intrusive thoughts about bodily fluids and smells; avoidance of showering and baths because of contamination fears.
It is common for individuals with OCD to be focused on their obsessions but oblivious to how their poor personal hygiene is experienced by others. Avoidance behaviors may be secondary to intrusive violent and sexual thoughts.
The sufferer may be ashamed to tell their partner. This can lead to further frustration as the partner has no idea what is going on. For example, one patient was unable to pick up her baby due to fear of violent intrusive thoughts and insisted on a full-time nanny. She was unable to tell her husband, who thought she did not care about the baby.
Treatment of OCD includes:
Medication: Medication can cause rapid resolution in OCD symptoms
Individual therapy: Supplements
Alternative treatment: Yoga, meditation, acupuncture
Relationship therapy: Relationship therapy helps a partner understand a sufferer's OCD. It also helps a sufferer understand the effect their OCD symptoms are having on their partner.
To learn more about OCD treatment, visit our website at https://gabapsychiatrist.com/ocd/