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Footprints in our Hearts

16 year old girl to 16 year old boy, first relationship for each, on the back of a school photo, 6 months after breakup

Boyfriend, Some people enter our lives and leave quickly. Others stay for a while. But they all leave their footprints in our hearts, and we are never, ever the same. I will always remember you. Thanks you for changing me. Love, Girlfriend                              [phone number]

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Calm the Tumult

30 year old woman writing to ex-boyfriend, 26, still living with her in a separate room after two years cohabitating, post breakup of a 2.5 year relationship.

Boyfriend,

Thank you for the gifts. I didn't want to wake you - I know you came in late, and I am leaving very early for work. If we don't see each other before then, I will wake you the morning of the 23rd to exchange gifts.

I hope you can find peace with yourself and calm the tumult in your mind.

I would like to stay in touch. Please don't hesitate to contact me if you need anything - anything at all. I am here for you.

                                With Love,                                 Girlfriend

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I looked past that and kept seeing you behind the hair.

Man, aged 43, writing to a woman, divorced, aged 45. Engaged.

      Fiancée,               I need to put this in paper, as I don't think that I could find all the words while tring to look at you. That would require too much poise.               I truely hope the best for you (and your kids). I feel deep in my heart and my stomach, that you are making a big mistake and that you are letting us both down. You have "been building a case" against me for two years, and I Never knew. I didn't stand a chance!!!               After we talked all those times and had us back together, you obviously didn't pay much attention us as we talked. If you had, then all those "issues" over these two years would have been addressed and removed as they came up.               You did thinks to me, for me, and with me (thats because you said you enjoued seeing me happy, - Love) and when care so much about someone you do things to make them happy. YOUR WORDS!               I know how well we worked together and that was one of the best and most pleasant surprises, as I knew then, that when we dd this for our lives it would work.              I feel that you would do things to see if you would piss me off, like get those haircuts but I looked past that and kept seeing you behind the hair.             I am not poor little [fiance], and I do feel sorry for you. As you are a proud and stuborn lady. Reaching out is OK. You need to know that. But I feel that you never will, if it ever crossed your mind to do so.             I don't know what more that a person could look for in a mate, as far as me, I know that I can be STUBORN and pushy, but I like myself for being kind, and understanding, and supportive, giving. I would do anything to see you happy, SO ----- if this make you happy.

                                   GOD BLESS,                    AND GRANT YOU ALL                 THE BEST,                                             LOVE                                                  AND                                                       BYE BYE,                                                               [Fiance]        [cupid-arrow stricken           heart with contact                information]

Postscript upon a Post-It:  This is not all I wanted to say. I kept drifting too far ahead to pay attention to what I was writing.

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Sorry For All The Times

Woman, age 30, written to man, age 26 on pink polka dot and multi-colored pastel argyle stationery, 3 months post dissolution of a 2.5 year relationship.

Dear Boyfriend, I wanted to say I'm sorry for all the times when you wanted to spend time with me, and I refused.  I can see now that you must have felt really neglected. I realize I let my fears and worries get the best of me. I stopped looking for new hobbies, stopped doing the things I enjoyed, basically just became a recluse. I relied on you to be everything, and that is completely unrealistic. It's far too much pressure - way too much to expect of one person. I need someone to complement me, not complete me.

I see now I became too needy, that I was lacking in self-confidence. I wanted you to make me feel better about myself, but the fact is I am the only person who can do that.  It is unrealistic to rely on someone else as the source for happiness. It's a wonderful thing that we were happy together - but when you became my only source of happiness, I became angry or sad when you weren't around - and that became very demanding for you. I know now it made you feel guilty, obligated, and eventually resentful towards me.

I fell in love with you for who you are - loving, dependable, trustworthy, responsible, generous, thoughtful, affectionate, intelligent.

I lost sight of you, of me, of us. I became consumed with an idea, but perfection is unattainable. It is too much pressure. I realize now that I don't have to be perfect to be worthy of love. Things go wrong sometimes - that's life. You have to take the good with the bad; otherwise, you wouldn't be able to recognize the good parts.

I'm sorry I took you for granted. In the future I am going to try really hard to be more aware and pay attention to the people I love and care about so that this doesn't happen again.

Thank you for helping me realize that.

                                      Love,                                    Girlfriend

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I Will Wait For Your Decision

Woman, age 30, written to man, age 26 on a sheet ripped from a corporate notepad, 2 weeks post dissolution of a 2.5 year relationship. Boyfriend - I love you. I will give you the time and space you need. Please come back to me. I love you so very much - I am so sorry I didn't show you it enough. I will wait for your decision.                                I Love You.                                    Girlfriend

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Now You Have A Vase

Note sent to ex-girlfriend with flowers, on florist's stationery, post breakup of a 10 month relationship.

I WAS TAUGHT BY SOMEONE VERY DEAR TO ME ITS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT MAKE THE ONES WE LOVE SMILE PS NOW YOU HAVE A VASE FOR YOUR FLOWERS ENJOY YOUR DAY BEAUTIFUL [BOYFRIEND]