#princessism

[poetdept]

ELENA GILBERT in TVD | 3.20 "Do Not Go Gentle"

[f1tf]

what a babie!

[cerulou]

[6exts]

br?? :)

8/10.

[sugarcoatedrealities]

I wonder if you ever get tired of listening to my problems. Even though you're one of the people in my life I consider closest to me. Even thought you're one of the few people I'd trust to open up to wholeheartedly. Even though we've shared so much, and been through so much shit together, I still wonder if you ever get tired of listening to me moan and groan, and cry over the same silly things over and over again. And a part of me doesn't want to trouble you with all of it at times, not because I don't trust you, not because I care any less for you than I did before, not because things have changed, but because there are times when I feel as though I don't need to trouble you all the time. Because in the end, I might only end up swallowing my foul words, and you'll only end up rolling your eyes, letting out a loud sigh, telling me, "I told you so." and just hoping I'd learn something from all the hurt the next time around.

I don't want this friendship to be mostly about me. I've already shared so much of my pain with you, even though I know you aren't in any less pain yourself. Yet you're there for me in ways I'm not there for you when you need me. Like how you rush over to comfort me when I'm sad, but how I can't even so much as come over when you're the one who's feeling blue.

I know you've somewhat grown tired of giving me advice my I'm too stubborn to push through with all of it. I know you want to knock some sense into me every time you see me rushing into something that I know will hurt me in the end. I know you want to pour cold water on me to wake me up and lemme take a good long look at the smoke signals everything else around me has been sending me. Like a train on its tracks, speeding up, seeing the bridge not set down and ready for it yet, and yet still moving onwards, with fingers crossed, hoping that everything will work out just fine anyway, and that it will get there safe.

I wonder if you ever get tired of listening to the same old thing. I wonder if you ever get tired of listening to my problems. I wonder if you ever get tired of keeping me company and having to be there for em when I'm down. I wonder.

[sugarcoatedrealities]

As a friend, sometimes the best thing you can do is mind your own business.

You probably feel protective of the people who are definitely dear to your heart so when you see them hurting, or see them about to get hurt, you end up wanting to lash out at the people who are responsible for this pain. If the relationship your friend is in is on the rocks, you'd probably want to come right on to the rescue, soothe the wound and make the pain go away. You want to be there for your friend, give your friend advice.. give your friend a hug. You want to slap that damn jerk who made your friend ache. You see your friend hurt, and you hurt too, and you tell yourself if you can feel the pain for your friend on your friend's behalf, you would. If you would, you could. But you can't and you shouldn't even try to.

Their business isn't always your business as well. No matter how close you people are, you are two separate people living separate lives that just happened to be closely intertwined. There are some things some people have to deal with by themselves. There are some pains they have to feel in order to be able to shield themselves away from it in the future. You can't always be your friend's hero. You can't always be your friend's shield, nor his/her spear. You can't always fight their battles for them. And you shouldn't.

Sometimes, all you have to do is listen. Step back and stand behind your friend, be the one he/she can fall back on when he/she can't fight anymore. But while he/she still can, let him/her. Let that person hurt, cry and learn. Let that person realize the things he/she needs to realize on his/her own. Let that person live.