How to Properly Control Emotions
Which emotion just popped up in your head after reading the title? Sadness? Anger? Happiness? Whether it be a positive emotion or a negative emotion we should always be careful with how we express our emotions. For the sake of being socially respectful, it is a fundamental social responsibility that each individual must take into consideration. As mentioned earlier, both positive and negative emotions need to be properly expressed. Personally, I believe that we all have the right to express our emotions. But we should also always consider other individuals present in our environment, because without a doubt not all ways of expressing our emotions is socially acceptable. This is a personal process that I would like to share to you, the reader. On how I properly handle my emotions. There are two steps to consider. 1.) Acknowledgment of Raw Emotion This is the moment where you start to feel the emotion itself, and this is the stage where supporting ideas or thoughts are replaying in our minds. Thus being a catalyst of the emotion. 2.) Processing Raw Emotion This is the moment of noticing that you are getting emotional, where the defense mechanism (repression) takes place, this is the critical part of handling one’s emotions because this is the part where we are processing our decision on how we will express our emotion. Now to add my personal way of expressing my emotions. Imagine your emotion (anger, sadness, happiness) as a large box, and inside that large box are more smaller boxes, in those smaller boxes contain your thoughts and ideas. Which put weight on the emotion itself. What people normally do, or what repression does is it shoves the whole box to the other person. Thus making a messy or unacceptable way of expressing the emotion. What I do personally is I open the large box and put the smaller boxes onto shelves. Thus making my thoughts organized. This helps me identify which boxes are necessary, and which boxes should be thrown away. Emotions aren’t that dumb and unnecessary as it is. Emotions have a purpose, and they have their own thoughts. This is why we confuse ourselves of having multiple personalities when really it’s just reasons of discomfort or reaching the zenith of our comfort zones. That we have reactions.
