#pseudanor posting

[dionysusfanboy]

You know what? It's not cool and it's not funny to shit on men as a whole even if you say "cis men".

Men shouldn't be demonized. They shouldn't be made to feel unwelcome in spaces.

First, it's often bioessentialism, and that sucks.

Second, it makes trans men and mascs feel unwelcome even if you say cis men because you're still saying there's something wrong with being a man.

Third, you're ignoring interseccionalities and propagating harmful stereotypes that mostly hurt marginalized men, such as black men who are more likely to get deemed violent than white men.

Fourth, there are cis men, even straight, white, perisex, cis men, who are nice people, and they deserve basic respect and not to be told you get angry at them for breathing.

And there's probably more reasons that I'm not thinking of off the top of my head.

Hating someone for something they are and can't change is never cool. Stop it.

And yes, I am going to tag this misandry and androphobia because yes, as a queer non-man I do think it exists, even if it's not what "MRA"s say it is.

[dionysusfanboy]

Was going to put this as a reply to another post but didn't want to derail/get heat on them. Also not my usual content but I think this needs to be said.

It sucks so bad that men and mascs can't talk about the types of oppression we face without being accused of misogyny or being called MRAs or whatever they try to pin on us next.

Yes, cis perisex men are oppressors in the sexism axis.

But every single intersectionality, or at least most, comes with some form of misandry. Black men are a victim of it. Men and mascs who are trans and/or GNC are a victim of it. Even women perceived as men are a victim of it (which is mostly intersex, trans and BIPOC women, afaik).

Hating men is bioessentialist. It's not ok. Especially when it ends up affecting marginalised men, but not exclusively imo.

Misandry is a real problem and ignoring it because it's somehow woke to hate men isn't going to get us anywhere.

I get being afraid of men and that translating into fear of people who "look like men". I truly do. But letting that sentiment affect how you treat and talk about others is dangerous. And it leads to oppression more than it protects you.

Misandry is also, from what I've seen, directed more strongly at already marginalised groups than to white, abled, periallocishet and otherwise privileged men.

Anyway, don't hate people for their innate characteristics. Even if that characteristic is being a man.

(Edited to add some privileges to the hypothetical man.)

[dionysusfanboy]

One thing that really sucks ass when you're transmasc is the conflicting feelings it brings.

Like, yes, I'd rather be seen as a man than a woman. But does that really have to mean "female presenting people" (don't know how to word this better) will avoid sitting down next to me on the bus?

Like, I get it. When I presented as a girl I also preferred sitting next to people who "looked like women". It feels safer.

But it's still an awful and conflicting feeling to go "I'm seen as a threat, this means I pass".

[dionysusfanboy]

Set 1: Foundation

Day 4:

Do you pray daily? Why or why not?

I try to.

My reasons for preferring daily prayer are mainly that it helps me keep a routine, but also I feel it strengthens my connection.

My reasons not to do it daily are: my mental health oscillates, sometimes my day is long and I'm just too damn tired to pray at night, or I oversleep and don't have the time to pray in the morning, I have a blockage against praying in front of other people, so when I'm not alone I skip prayer.

What are your favorite plants and/or animals? Why?

Too many to list lol

However I'll say I love snails, they're nice and I like the symbology of going slow but always that they're associated to. I also like millipedes, they're cute.

My favourite plants are the ones that smell good.

[dionysusfanboy]

I've been seeing several posts along the lines of "some people are doing this religion wrong and we should do something about it" and I don't really know how to feel about it...

On the one hand, yeah, imo people are doing things that are wrong. On the other hand it's like, none of my business how people decide to worship and policing one's beliefs isn't cool. But on the one hand maybe practices with such different central beliefs shouldn't share a name. But on the other hand who's going to say what's "real helpol" and what's "actually just rehashed wicca".

Anyway, certain things people do do make me feel uncomfortable, even, because I think they're disrespectful, but I don't think I (or anyone) have a right to tell these people that they're wrong and should stop.

Religion is deeply personal.

Idk, I guess I'm saying we should respect people's beliefs even if they contradict ours.

Which isn't to say teaching is bad, sharing information is good. What isn't good, imo, is claiming someone else's beliefs are wrong.

So share what you know everyone, but be humble and let other people believe what they want.

[dionysusfanboy]

I'm having weird feelings about worshipping/believing in the Greek Gods.

Is it wrong? As a Latin American, should I worship deities closer to my own culture? Is there some remnant of white supremacy in my choice of religion?

Like, I know Hellenic polytheism isn't inherently associated with white supremacy (despite the unsavoury people who do associate them), but why am I drawn to it? What if my motivations aren't "pure" as I believe them to be?

Am I in the right to worship Gods so distant from me? Am I betraying my own culture by doing so?

Like, in the end I "know" I'm not doing anything wrong and religion is personal and I'm drawn to what I'm drawn, but I can't help having these feelings sometimes... And I admit it sometimes makes me feel ashamed to say what my religion is to people and that sucks :(

[dionysusfanboy]

I need to research definitions further but I may stop identifying as a hellenic polytheist and start identifying as an eclectic polytheist. I won't stop believing anything I already believe in, and I won't stop doing what I can to honour the hellenic Gods as respectfully of the traditional way as I can manage.

However, I've realized that:

I do some stuff in a not very traditional way (like praying with a japamala), that may "unqualify" me as strictly hellenic polytheist

I'm pretty sure I believe in many different Gods, it's just that I worship the hellenic ones

I kinda want to start worshipping some non hellenic Gods alongside them

And all of this together makes me think a different label might suit me better. However my practice won't change (except probably to include more Gods but that was going to happen anyway).

(Also the content of this blog likely won't change as I still have the same interests and want to stay close to helpol)

However it kind of feels like a cop-out, to "follow my own path" instead of striving for being traditional? Idk...

Any thoughts?

[dionysusfanboy]

Set 2: Walls

Day 7:

What is your favorite non-edible offering to give to the gods?

Non-edible offerings are my favourite, but I don't really have "a favourite". The one I give most often is incense (I vary the scents), and I guess candlelight for Hestia if you count that. But my favourite is when I find something random and go "ooh, [God] would like that/this reminds me of [God]" and offer it spontaneously.

What is your favorite form of entertainment (podcast/reading/movies/etc.)? Does it change depending on the topic?

I can't really choose between movies and tv shows and reading, though I read less because I lost the habit. My favourite is probably music though. I don't listen to podcasts, can't focus enough for them.