#putting yourself down

[spiritsblade]

idk i feel like the best way to defend your art and interests is by posting what you want freely rather than saying "i know it's weird but—" in the hopes that people will see your warning and go easy on you

[allfuckstogiveinaburningpile]

Me on some days: Im ugly i have no personality whatsoever you re not the life of the party your smile doesnt lit up a room you re boring and dull

Me on other days: how do people see me walking down the street and not immediately drop down to their knees and pledge undying devotion? Like… congrats that’s some goddamn restraint you have there. I’m fucking adorable

[anxietys-room]

Ask that was deleted by accident

Is it normal to always feel like im doing something wrong? I feel like all of my success are just this close from being failures, so they dont count. Im constantly putting myself down and my friends tell me to stop but my brain wont shut up. I dont know whats wrong with me and i feel like this will help.

Hey bud, it's okay. There's several reasons you could be like this. Focus on your breathing and try to listen to your friends. Your successes are still successes no matter the circumstances. I love you

Does anyone have any advice?

Ace

[higlyopinionated-blog]

Your self criticism is hurting me more than yourself.

I need you to stop putting yourself down because I think you're absolutely incredible. And when you say bad things about yourself, you make other people think it's okay for them to do the same. And it's not. I love you, and you're amazing, and I need you to just believe me and stop disagreeing with me.

[andforevershewillbeloved]

Do you ever get disappointed at the amount of time you spend putting yourself down? As though there aren’t a million other things you could be doing instead.

L

[heretherebedork]

Putting yourself down to make it seem less likely that good things will happen: coping method or destructive method?

YOU DECIDE.

[shadowcream]

Me? I was treated like a toxic waste dump of radioactive low self-esteem. Once I remember I drank too much, felt a bit tipsy, I went to the bathroom, looked in the mirror, was horrified at how dumpy I looked and returned to the small party I was at with fellow coworkers, and I announced, "I look like a drowned rat." No one laughed. Because it wasn't funny. It's never funny when it's clear how much someone hates themselves and is almost trying to dilute that energy by vomiting it up on others socially. (...) There is no need to clear the air each and every time or preface any potential objection people might have to you or your very existence which might distract them from what you are saying or doing. (In other words, no "I look like a drowned rat" not-funny little qualifiers on existing as a human being on the planet in the first place. Uncomfortable in your own skin? Fine. Love it and laugh at it -- but, don't hate it and laugh at it. That's the difference. That's the only way "calling something out" can work successfully and not make other people's skin crawl.) People saw that I thought I mattered. And they treated me like I mattered in return.

/Mandy from xo Jane.

"#3 Realize that however you are treating yourself is exactly how others are going to treat you."

  http://www.xojane.com/relationships/introvert-to-extrovert

[that-one-girl-420]

Dress the way you want people to see you, never be afraid to wear what you want, and never tell yourself that's really cute but I don't think it's me. Because it is. Your beautiful stop telling yourself other wise.