☕️ OOC jealousy in RP!
That’s a big red flag to me.
I understand the whole, feeling jelly that someone is rping with someone that you want to RP with or whichever- I think it is something that all roleplayers can somewhat relate to in small amounts. F.O.M.O and all of that.If it’s not something that can be shrugged off then you have a problem - especially if it leads to guilt tripping, trying to scare away people’s RP partners/friends, passive aggressive comments and an insisting of being involved in scenes that your character doesn’t fit into or has no logical reason of being a part in. All it does is push people away, it makes them feel exhausted and shitty, even anxious if they dare to have some RP at a time where you are also online; because who knows, maybe they’ll get yet more comments to deal with oocly from you whilst they’re trying to enjoy a slice of RP. Ironically some of the excuses I’ve heard from previous encounters with OOC jealousy is that they’re afraid of getting dropped cause they’ve been dropped before. No one owes you roleplay, you don’t own your partners (even if your character is in a relationship with them ICly), intimidating someone out of rping with a certain person makes you a Grade A Asshole, and the fact that you feel sad, jealous and hurt because you weren’t 100% involved in every second of every minute of someone else’s fun pretendy times is ultimately a you problem, that your RP partner shouldn’t be responsible for fixing. I’ve met a lot of really good people who have been run down and turned weary for this particular brand of obsessive controlling behavior. I feel like it always hurts the genuinely goodhearted people the most cause some of us have troubles saying no.
