#qpr talk

[system-of-a-feather]

You know, I wonder how many people who die by the "best friend is an EXCLUSIVE and SPECIAL term and people who have multiple best friends are missing the point" are really only sweating it so much cause they are kind of in an unofficial QPR or at least a platonic "partnership" of sorts that is special and they're kind of projecting that onto others enough so that they actually care about that term.

Cause like, I do think there is also the issue with people judging people who have ONE best friend above others as anything negative other than just their experience and relationship dynamics because its ALSO okay to have just one best friend

But like... I feel people get hung up on words and how they use it that they judge people who have the same words and use it to represent something different

And like yeah words mean things and words being used to depict similar but different concepts can confuse people, but thats not a reason to force people to conform to YOUR understanding of those words; its a reason to COMMUNICATE and CLARIFY what words mean to YOU with those that you are talking to / care about

Like I have a bestie best friend forever that is basically above other friends and all but that's because BEFORE bestie / best friend / bff, the dude is my writing PARTNER. And we don't call it a QPR or a platonic relationship or anything because there is a lot of connotations to formally calling something a relationship and largely I feel between our attachment issues, even if it changes nothing, establishing it as a "relationship" of any form would make something that works perfectly fine and beautiful more complicated by unintentionally putting expectations and connotations neither of us really want or need but just kind of come inherently with the word

But like, it is an explicitly platonic partnership. There is literally no reason that someone that is my writing PARTNER in a project that we both intend to spend our life working on, would be on the same playing field as a general friend.

But ya know just some thoughts

[ingenio-academy-if]

Just gotta ask, can we be platonic soulmates with the ROs?

Hello! Thanks for the ask.

I will admit that I hadn't thought on that part too hard, I love me some good QPR (queerplatonic relationship)

I do feel though that only Kane, Zane, and possibly Aimé would be able to be in a QPR. Evander and Nova might struggle with it because if in a relationship they would want a romantic one.

But believe me that it's super-duper tempting, since I happen to have a platonic soulmate myself haha.

I think I need to think on this a bit more, since I had only planned romantic routes for the game, I hope that's okay!

[mhoch]

hats the difference between friends and qpps? this is a genuine question

There is no concrete line. It's up to you and them! For me, it results in higher intimacy- saying I love you and doing gestures to fill in for kissing because I don't like kissing, etc- but it can massively vary what a queer platonic relationship is, and that's on purpose- it's Queering the Platonic Relationship, it's meant to not fit in a box. Some people have romantic and/or sexual elements, and there's some like me who's entirely platonic.