orientation
just some background on how i feel/identify as . . . .
Xum- Never being satisfied with your orientation due to constant self-doubt or identity issues, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible–to find “the orientation” or “the one truth”–though one may never be found due to one’s neurotype, because words will never be able to describe it, and/or its own properties paradox itself. This frequent anxiety and doubt even causes this orientation to feel imperfect to the individual.
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Heteroflexible- Identifying as predominantly hetero- but being flexible in this identity.
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Nomalterous:
Noma- or Noman- Feeling attraction to all genders but men.
Alterous attraction is described as neither being (entirely/completely) platonic nor romantic, & is an attraction best described as wanting emotional closeness without necessarily being (at all or entirely) platonic &/or romantic, & is used in the place of -romantic or -platonic (so say bi-alterous instead of bi-romantic). Someone can be both alterous & romantic &/or platonic & can have varying degrees on attraction, ultimately feel discomfort / unease / or just a sense of inaccuracy in calling it wholly romantic or platonic. Similar to queerplatonic/quasiplatonic/quirkyplatonic attraction but not quite the same.
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Demibiromantic:
Demi- An a-spectrum orientation where one does not experience attraction to a person until they have developed an emotional connection to them. There is no guarantee that this attraction will develop after an emotional connection is formed, but it is required in order for attraction to be possible. Some demi people may choose to further define their orientation in terms of genders they are attracted to (demipanromantic, demihomosexual). Others do not find this necessary, or feel that they have enough experiences of that form of attraction to figure out who they’re attracted to.
Bi- Attraction to two or more genders.
Romantic orientation refers to an individual’s pattern romantic attraction o based on a person’s gender. This is considered distinct from sexual orientation, which refers specifically to a person patterns of sexual attraction, which is distinct from romantic attraction. There are many romantic identities just like sexual orientations.
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Akoiqueerplatonic:
Akoi- Akoine- Lith- or Akoin- Feeling attraction, but having no desire to have interactions or have feelings reciprocated. -or- A person who feels a particular kind of attraction, which fades if it is reciprocated or if they enter a relationship with the person they are attracted to.
Queerplatonic, Quasiplatonic, or Quirkyplatonic is described a relationship which is more intense and intimate than is considered common or normal for a “friendship”, but doesn’t fit the traditional sexual-romantic couple model. It is characterized by a strong bond, love, and emotional commitment, yet is not perceived by those involved as “romantic”. The relationship may or may not have some elements or degree of sexuality/eroticism at various times, or none - it doesn’t matter, because sexuality/sexual exclusivity is not what the relationship is organized around. It’s defined by the intensity and significance of the emotional connection. It’s a popular term within the aromantic community, but not all aromantics feel queerplatonic attraction, and not everyone who feels queerplatonic attraction is aromantic. Similar to alterous attraction but not quite the same.