#queering femininity

[love-ardour-anarchism]

This post is including and encouraging of ALL kinds of trans people including women, men, nonbinary and agender people who embrace their femininity.

I love trans women and femmes. I love when I meet up with a transfem friend and our outfits are just polar opposites. I love when she looks like she's going to a gala event for a very progressive cause while I look like I should be bumming cigarettes outside the local dive bar.

I love femmes, nonbinary femmes, I love femmes who aren't women, I love femmes who are men and I love femmes who are masc. I love how he smiles in his pink tie dye shirt that I gave him, I love the wrinkles on its shirt where their belly rolls.

I love the fat femmes, I love the femmes who wear the loudest makeup. I love the gentle femmes, I love the femmes who're themmes, I love the genderfluid and the non-binary fems.

I love trans women and femmes. I love people exploring their femininity the way they gods-damned want to. The hairy femmes and fems and women. The ones who try to shave but where the shadow stays, the ones who don't and all the ones who try to be okay with it. The ones who try to love their stubble and their hair that grows.

I love the women, femmes and fems of color, the ones who don't let white supremacist ideals of beauty ruin their days or presentation. I love the ones who reclaim how their darker hair shows on their skin, I love the ones who keep it natural if they like.

I love the femmes who embrace who they would like to be, I love the goth femmes and the preppy ones, I love the gay-boy librarians, I love the furry femboys, I love the fems who dress up everyday and I love all the ones who have to hide it all too much.

[sartorialorientation]

You know that as a fem what you are is not fake but it is profoundly made up.

Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, "Gonna Get My Girl Body Back: This is a Work in Progress" from Rose and Camilleri's anthology, Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity

This quote reminds me of when I have put on a face in an interaction. I am always sincere, even if I am exaggerating, or boldly lying, or being enthusiastic when I'm actually feeling down. My intention in each interaction is sincerely focused on engaging, comforting and inspiring those involved. I am aware that as a sincere liar I make an oxymoron of myself, but I am comfortable with this contradiction.This is how I do femme, and it is not fake, but indeed it can be profoundly made up.