#queue it for science

[actualaster]

"[Ship fans] face reality, look at this incident in canon this is why it could never work!"

Okay well first we aren't shipping it because we think it'll be canon we ship it for a ton of other reasons

And second... [gestures to the entirety of canon which is basically a non-stop showcase of why the actual canon ship would be destined to crash and burn if it weren't for the fact that the creator(s) is/are dead set on it to the point of it doesn't matter how many red flags there are or how unhealthy the dynamic is they'll be forced into a "happily ever after" anyway, though by all rights they should end up messily splitting after a deteroriating wreck of a relationship that crumbles around them]. >_>

[actualaster]

"This post/article/video was clearly made by somebody who doesn't know anything about [whatever topic!], and is just being shared by people who also know nothing because nobody fact checks shit anymore!"

And then the post/article/video in question is being widely shared by people who have explicit lived experience where they're saying "yeah actually this is accurate" or even "honestly this downplays how fucked up [whatever] is"

Like great and wonderful that your experiences with [topic of the day] are such that it sounds like bullshit to you. But you having good experiences doesn't cancel out the large amount of other people who have had bad experiences, y'know?

[actualaster]

Gonna be honest.

When the only "proof" somebody can point to is screenshots and it's just oh so convenient that all real evidence outside the screenshots happens to have been deleted or never existed publicly, I really am not inclined to spread "accusations" around because I know how easy it is to fake screenshots.

This is why I keep my thoughts and feelings on vertain people to myself, because all the "proof" I have is "he said, she said" and I've seen way too many times where it turns out to have been taken out of context, is actually way older than implied and whatever bad thing has already been apologized for (and the behavior not repeated), or is just straight up fully manufactured out of thin air and lies.

[actualaster]

IDK, there's just something about the way society treats women and tries to silence them when they try to talk about their struggles so they can be painted as hysterical and lying for attention that just seems to be very similar to how people (including other trans and queer people) treat trans men, transmascs, and some nonbinary people.

Silenced and erased so they can be claimed to be lying for attention or trying to steal the spotlight from where it "belongs" when they try to speak up about issues they face.

Just kind of very interesting the groups people who either started* as or were precieved to start as women but ended up not being cis women still get treated the same way.

(*Different people feel differently about their experiences. Some trans people do feel they started as a different gender and then it changed, others feel as if they were never the gender they were assumed to be.)

[actualaster]

Damn, what IS it about the existence of ace people that just drives so many allos up the fucking wall?

Like they get SO mad and annoyed at the mere reminder we exist lmao.

And queer allos are the worst about it somehow, like damn you really decided you were gonna take all the shit the cishets dumped on you then find another target to unload it on? Yikes, massive loser behavior.

Anyway sorry for you being broken people and that there's no current cure for a shitty personality, but hoping all acephobes get well soon somehow anyway!

And an extra happy ace week to all the aces out there, wherever you fall on the spectrum! May the acephobes stay far away!

[actualaster]

"Those are my bridges to burn, I shouldn't suggest you burn yours"

--how my brain tried to phrase "it's one thing if I decide to get into a huge scorched-earth fight with somebody, its a whole different matter to advise that to another

[actualaster]

Maybe it's just because I hail from the days of all-ages areas and I still maintain a presence on a forum that has members ranging from 13 to 70+ years old and we all freely interact in an entirely SFW, appropriate manner, but the idea that we need to ban adults and minors from all interaction is wild to me.

Like yes it needs to be age appropriate, and yes ANYTHING can be used to groom.

But. Like. This shift to treat EVERY interaction between adults and minors as inherently predatory on the part of adults is not good.

[actualaster]

"I can't believe this person who never claimed to be [identity I assumed them to be based on mannerisms and presentation] would do something I don't approve of! Anyway if you want content by an ACTUAL [identity the person in question, once again, never claimed to be] then follow me!"

I mean I know it happens all the time and it's an agonizingly transparent ploy for plugging somebody's content (if you have to plug your content by acting betrayed that somebody wasn't who they never claimed to be then your content deserves to flop lmao), but it never fails to make me ultra annoyed as I slam the block button on the parasites trying to make a mountain out of a molehill so they can suck all the attention out of it for themselves.