#reciprocal liking

[mindblowingfactz]

When you start liking a person just because they like you and show interest in you is actually a psychological phenomenon known as Reciprocal Liking.

[jungleboyrayan]

My word for the year 2013: propinquity

..or rather - nearness. What Determines Attraction? A Psychological Approach You have met someone new. You are attracted to them and want them to like you. What can you do to make an impressive first impression? According to psychological research, there are four major factors of attraction: propinquity, similarity, reciprocal liking, and physical attractiveness. 1) Propinquity – The meaning of this term is actually much simpler than it sounds. Basically, the more we see and interact with someone, the higher the odds of a relationship forming. 2) Similarity – Folk wisdom may tell us that “opposites attract,” however, research indicates that we are attracted to people who are most similar to us. 3) Reciprocal liking – If we know someone likes us, we may in turn like them even more. 4) Physical attractiveness – “What is beautiful is good.” You may call it superficial, but there is no escaping the importance of outer beauty. (the above accurate description was kindly taken from wordpress blog: FSF: Fabulous. Single. Female)

If your crowd that you are seen with are fat/obese then subliminally (by association) you are put together with them as a group. You become part of "that fat/obese bunch of people" - there is a pattern and some knowledge here! Thus I choose my acquaintances and friends with due care - and how comfortable I am around them.  Shouldn't everyone? So far friends I have had over the years fitted their situational purpose and some have actually carried over from one life to another and you are never too old for new friends, but remember also that just because you know them a long time it doesn't make you friends. I cannot deny I am a big advocate for physical attraction, I like pleasing things, many of my closest female (and male)  friends are very attractive, good-looking and some even downright sexy, I like that. They are also clever, witty and posses great character and best of all have great warm personalities - what more do you look for in a friend? - I get the pleasing the eye thingy on top of all that. Of Course there will be people asking (accusing) me about "what about the ugly people? Why don't you like them -huh?- give them a change too, you superficial so and so.." Only one reply: "what ugly people are you referring to?" Does any one NOT avoid ugly people? And I am talking about the many ways people can be ugly not (just) physical beauty, but on the oh so many levels that people can be ugly - why does one carry more weight than any other reason of why I like or don't like people? (feel free to comment on this bit as this is very much a weighted issue) I am all about the beauty in people and I like to create for myself and and the people I appreciate and love to live in a harmony around me and with eachother. (well it's a work in progress..) Why should I want to deliberately complicate matters by consciously throwing a spanner in the works or upsetting a balance.  In my view there are people that I don't like, displease and even repulse me and are generally not pleasing to hang out with on some or many levels. Why would I go out of my way and spend my time, energy and care on people I have no interest in being friends with? Every new situation, new job, new home, new country to live in, brings opportunity to meet new people and add new friends eventually. You'll find yourself in (or even create) propinquity - nearness. You do similar things, live in the same area, you both have teenager kids, you both share a passions for trains - what ever it is bringing you 'closer' to that new person. Attraction comes out of propinquity - or nearness - that is where the beauty starts. It is called a personal attraction between people. That is how friendships start. You meet, you like what you see, you do something together, you create a bond which with the right amount of care and attention can only grow stronger. I'm done now.

[thekidswereallright]

Reciprocal Liking

When we're attracted to the person who likes us back. We're flattered when they like us, which makes us feel good, which makes us associate positive feelings with that person. If you have positive association in your mind with a person you are more likely to find them attractive.

[phamfhersz]

Napagkamalan niya na yung pagmamahal ng swan na bida dati sa kanya ay ang pagmamahal niya din. In other terms, naging obligasyon din niya na mahalin pabalik yung swan na yun kahit alam niyang hindi

[cmused-blog]

Reciprocal Liking - Stop the Ask

Today someone in my network liked a page for another individual in my network.

Then promptly asked, publicly, for a "reciprocal like".

The nuances and etiquette of social media. What a long conversation we could have through a vast landscape.

However, a quick nugget for today ~ folks select and "like" pages based on a complex internal preference system. Liking the page is personal or at least was prompted by a personal spark, an inspiration of some kind from that person.

Requesting someone "like" your page because you've liked theirs, well, that's stepping on the endearing factor of your brand - minimizing the likeability of your page into an ask.

Similar to the difference between a solicitation email and someone stumbling upon your brand and falling in love.

Stop the ask.