#reddit men

[i-merani]

Main character in an existentialist novel (deragatory)

[dyrdymalki]

the question:

the answer :

i kinda hoped I would never see one in the wild but well now you have to see this too

[lolly-in-a-strange-land]

This might be a screaming into the void type thing, but here goes. I see videos on Tiktok of women showing men behaving like batshit creeps and i've only ever had it happen once. Guy followed me home, attempting to chat me up. Very creepy and he was reported to the police, but I can see it happens to a lot of women. Its a huge issue and one that needs to be taken more seriously. No one should feel unsafe.

That brings me to my next point. I work from home and its not unusual to get Amazon deliveries so i'm used to it. About two weeks ago, my mother in law mentioned that she needed to book an electrician to come out and change the meter. It would require the electric to be turned off and she wanted to confirm i'd be ok being offline from work whilst its done. I said absolutely and told her to let me know when and she said she would tell me before so I could let my boss know and he'd know i wasn't skiving.

Fast forward to today, a van pulls up. Its for Octopus energy. Bearing in mind, I don't know who supplies our energy as we rent from boyfriend's mum and she handles all that. I'm on a call trying to chase a refund. Luckily i'm on hold investigating so when someone hammers at the door, I get up and answer.

Interaction goes like this;

Me: Hello?

Him:.......

Me: I'm sorry, who are you?

Him: I've seen you around.

Me: *Confused* excuse me.

Him: *Stares at me for an uncomfortably long time without speaking.*

Me: *Thinks it's a weird sales pitch.* i'm sorry, i'm working and not interested.

I close the door and he looks visibly angry now and stomps back to his van. I'm stunned and panicking. What did he mean? Where has he seen me before? I've never seen him before. I message my boyfriend and his mum and it transpired that this creepy man was the electrician. They'd emailed my boyfriend's mum to say they were coming between 1 to 5 but she'd got her days mixed up and thought they meant tomorrow. Easy mistake to make. Not her fault at all.

The whole interaction was caught on the ring camera. My boyfriend was annoyed by the guy's unprofessional and creepy behaviour. I still felt insanely bad so I posted to Reddit asking if I was the asshole.

I was basically told I was the asshole, accused of slamming the door aggressively in the guy's face and being immature and dramatic. I was stunned again. Are we in some parallel dimension? When is it acceptable to say that when asked who you are? Thankfully there were a few people who were reasonable and said it was creepy and weird, but the amount of victim blaming had me second guessing myself and almost feeling a kind of empathy for the creepy electrician, like he was the one who had been wronged and was the victim in all this.

Some Internet spaces aren't safe and apparently Reddit is one of them. Don't know if anyone else has had similar experiences.

[lesbiancosimaniehaus]

Men continue to be so dumb and stupid it never ceases to amaze (one or two pints above he was complaining about feminist friends of his thy were just shy of being radfems—whatever that means)

[mothers-and-fuckers-of-the-jury]

does someone know what this means? like does someone have any clue why someone trying a small solution to a personal flaw is a bad thing?