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Abusers will often be emotionally distant, unavailable, cold, or barely respond to you, leaving you questioning if everything is OK. You may inevitably comply with their wishes or demands because it is the only way to get any warmth or connection from them. Eventually, this creates a dynamic where you will work really hard to cater to their needs and wishes, while your needs are completely ignored and neglected.
No matter what you say or do, abuse is never your fault. Even if you made big mistakes, even if you did something very wrong, you STILL do not deserve to be abused. Full stop.
Abusers will constantly change the rules of what they expect from you. One day, they’ll tell you that they want one thing, and when you deliver, suddenly it’s not enough. They move the goalposts so you’re always striving to meet impossible standards, leaving you feeling inadequate and off-balance. This keeps you in a state of constantly trying to please them but never, ever succeeding.
You’re Married to a Nightmare
You don’t call it that. Not out loud. You call it stress, a rough patch, something every couple goes through if they just try hard enough. Because nightmares aren’t supposed to wear a ring, aren’t supposed to sit across from you at the same table and ask how your day was like everything is fine. But this one does. It smiles when people are watching. Speaks gently in rooms that…
