#relationship insecurity

[codependentbloom]

Whenever I have fears about my boyfriend abandoning me, I just think about the mass numbers of men I would date after he breaks up with me to soothe my anxiety and insecurity, and I feel better.

so, hey

[fall-in-love-with-a-demisexual]

Me: *checks calendar* Yup it's about that time again to be super paranoid about my partner breaking up with me

My partner: *does anything or nothing*

Me: *laughing nervously* yup this is one of many signs this is the beginning of the end! I'm calling it now so at least I will have the joy of being proven right

[darciemae1121]

Does anyone else have a relationship insecurity where they feel like the other person is mad at them when the slightest change in texting/ communication occurs? How do I stop it? It's freaking ruining my life, it happens every damn time and I'm sick of losing my mind over nothing.

[crimsonutopiazx-blog]

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[let-the-voices-speak]

Losing Him

My boyfriend is going through some stuff wherein external....forces may lead to a breakup, or him needing to spend less time with me, which terrifies me.

I love him so much. Getting less attention is rough cause I'm needy and clingy and already struggle with the attention at times and less would be a big struggle.

But losing him.... Oh god no. Imagining it makes me shake and get choked up, I go to the verge of tears. I don't want to lose him for any reason... I can imagine my future with someone for the first time. Please world don't take him away from me... I'll be inconsolable, a broken shell of who I am right now... Don't take my boy away from me, I beg you.

[let-the-voices-speak]

What if?

What if I'm actually a shit human being but no one wants to call me out on it?

Maybe I'm not a good friend? Not a good girlfriend? I don't give enough or I take too much? I'm too whiney? Too emotional? Love too much too fast?

What if I'm dumber than I seem? Everyone is just nice to me? All the insults I've ever gotten are true after all? I'm ugly and worthless? People's lives would be better without me?

This world.... Might be better off without me

[let-the-voices-speak]

He is my person

I have two SOs, I love them both dearly but one is much newer than the other! And the older one I'm just completely connected to he is my person in every way, he's who I want to tell everything to first no matter what! Who I lean on first when I'm upset he's my person.

I hope this doesn't make my girlfriend feel like I love her less, cause I care about her but just really I haven't known her as long I can't really be as connected as we can, I was his best friend before we started dating it's just a different dynamic.

[abundance-choice]

M: I just had a pretend dialogue in my head with him in which he’s asking me why I haven’t been in touch with him and I said 'because you’re not available.' And he said 'what do you mean?' And I said 'the only reason we were available to each other was because we lived together in Europe. And you’re not available now and that’s OK. That doesn’t mean that my door is closed to you. But it is really difficult to make plans with you because you plan everything last minute and I don’t feel like you’re available.' There is not a good way to start the morning. That is destroying my relationship.

A: Where did you leave things with yourself, with your exile?

M: I went to bed thinking: I am doing the work on myself and I am continuing to do the work. This is why I am on this planet -- to continue learning how I can be a better human and better creator and more loving and expansive in every area of my life, including romance and partnership. So I went to bed feeling pretty good. I think this morning, I'm going to focus on maybe writing some positive poetry and some affirmations and meditate and get into receiving mode and get into a higher vibration. I think checking in to our vibrations throughout the day is going to be really important. It's a moment-to-moment practice.