#relationship thoughts

[long-distance-love]

Being called "my love" will always be superior to just "love", I will not elaborate.

[cravetouch]

Secret ways to touch a man (that most people overlook)

Some forms of intimacy aren’t obvious. They’re quiet, subtle, but incredibly powerful.

His neck Not suddenly — slowly. A light touch when you pass behind him or lean closer to say something.

His hair Running your fingers through his hair while talking to him can instantly soften his guard.

His chest A hand resting there during a hug feels grounding in a way most people underestimate.

His lower back A gentle touch there when standing close together often feels more intimate than a kiss.

His hands Tracing the lines of his palm or lightly squeezing his hand during a conversation creates a connection that words rarely match.

Sometimes intimacy isn’t about intensity. It’s about attention.

What do you think?

[champagnemamidiaries]

They don’t know me, they know what they think they know, and that’s a dangerous game to play.

[muskeww]

I used to think becoming annoying around someone was a good sign. It meant I felt safe. Safe enough to stop rehearsing my words. Safe enough to be loud, dramatic, clingy, emotional, curious. Safe enough to let the carefully edited version of me go home for the night.

Now I catch myself holding that version back.

Not because I have changed, but because I have learned that people love the polished version of you a lot more than the real one. The real one asks too many questions. The real one talks too much. The real one takes up space.

And maybe that is what hurts. Realizing that the parts of yourself you once revealed as proof of trust are now the very things you are afraid will make someone leave. 

[newrelationshipgoals]

Genuine people don’t come around too often anymore it seems. If you come across someone that’s real and stays true, you may want to keep them close. Many are out for self these days.

[colordogluckynumber]

JWCT Spoilers (yasammy thought dump)

I'm gonna say it. I adore Yasammy, and truly hope it works out next season. But GOOD for Sammy standing up for herself! Yaz was not getting it at all, not hearing Sammy, not seeing her emotional struggle. Yaz didn't try at all S1-S3 to consider Sammy's feelings/side over their relationship issues (and the family + Brooklynn topics just were the last straw).

S1 was very focused on Yaz's recovery "look I'm better & I'm proving it by staring down dinosaurs and protecting Sammy" (I'm not downplaying this; it's great!) and Sammy recognized it multiple times. Yaz really focused the "we're a team" aspect, true, but this didn't mean she was addressing Sammy's needs.

S2 Yaz was way more physical with Sammy (also into S3) which gives off vibes that she thought they had reconciled their issues thanks to her, possibly even assuming Sammy's happy-go-lucky love automatically forgave her for 'leaving to get better'. We all know Yaz is the physically-driven one & Sammy emotionally-driven. Yaz saw (in retrospect S3) how much Sammy connected with their host family, but never acknowledged why Sammy was so happy there; instead stating that if Sammy really missed that connection, she should just make amends with her family, completely missing the point that Sammy was so happy cuz she has underlying grief.

S3 finally gave ample opportunities to address Sammy & her family+camp fam feelings (at least 4x) where all Yaz had to do was allow them to get emotionally deep, to not just hear Sammy's concerns, but ask why she felt that way, & actually acknowledge that she hurt Sammy. Yaz needed to realize that every time Sammy said she's feeling betrayed by Brooklynn (ie. Leaving without explanation, not asking for help when she needed it, and not standing by them while they are hurt), it directly paralleled her feeling betrayed by Yaz. Yaz then doubling down on not thinking to meet Sammy's emotional needs & instead calling her a coward was heartbreaking.

Now, I honestly believe that Yaz 100% 1. thought they were good, 2. thought Sammy's focus was on Brooklynn and did not see it as a parallel toward their relationship, and 3. she wasn't told the whole story behind Sammy's family abandoning her cuz Sammy was also not a good communicator during this ordeal.

Regardless, Yaz expressed her whole point of getting control of her PTSD was was to be seen as a girlfriend, but she's missing the critical emotional component of what a relationship needs. I also feel that Yasammy's miscommunication parallels Kenlynn, who were not able to work through their issues, so I am hopeful the Writers are using Yasammy to showcase a functional means to fix bad fights in the next season. 🤞 (After thought, now I'm hoping for a split screen Sammy-Kenji & Yaz-Brooklynn talk about what they wish had been done differently)

[priyanshis-things]

A man who can't love but desperately needs to be loved is a dangerous thing indeed.

- Lisa Jewell, Then She Was Gone