#relationship things

[long-distance-love]

Being called "my love" will always be superior to just "love", I will not elaborate.

[toyastales]

Communication is an essential tool to navigate through life, especially in relationships. When one voice dominates and shuts out the other you loose the balance necessary to maintain a healthy relationship.

My painting "Reverb ".

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[abcd-adventures]

As someone who has not gotten to sleep in in 6.5 years, I'm trying desperately not to be bitter that my husband is currently still in bed at 8:20 when he already gets to sleep in until 8 every off day, and the latest I ever get to sleep in is 6am if I'm extremely lucky and B stays in bed that long... It's becoming 8:30 more and more, and if I mention that I feel a bit jealous about that, he says, "B is getting older; he can learn he can't bother anyone until 6:30." And, yeah...I guess... and, setting aside that 6:30 is still not 8:30, we also have pets and B isn't exactly quiet when he gets up...and...whatever, he just doesn't get it.

On weekdays, he sleeps in until 10 minutes before he leaves for work and then just grabs coffee, says goodbye, and leaves. I pack B's lunch, make breakfast, drive him to school, etc.

Basically, B has been in regular school for 2 years, and while I work "part-time" still, I work 35 hours instead of 25 (plus any emergency calls, and sometimes I have to finish my notes at home), and I still do dinner, the housework, and bedtime every other night...I think it's time to revisit our delineation of duties conversation. Maybe?

For me, I always have this FEELING about the fact that I earn waaaay less money than my husband. And, I choose to work a job that pays me way less than I could be making because I love it, and I get to make that choice without consequence because my husband earns enough for me to do that. He also earns enough for me to pretty much donate all the money I do earn from my job right back into the type of work that I do. So, that's significant. It matters to me. A lot. Sometimes he mildly complains about that, but whenever I remind him that we have to actually live the values we say we have, he backs off immediately.

I love my husband. I love my life. I don't have much to complain about. I just don't ever know if I "get" to complain about the unequal domestic duties if I am so hard-line about refusing to make more money doing something I would enjoy less if my husband chooses to work a job he doesn't love in order to provide for us. Like, does that necessitate that I pick up more slack at home to even things out? To be fair, I have told him MANY times that I would prefer he work a job he does actually enjoy. We live well below our means, and he could make less and be happy if he wanted to!! He is just of the mindset that a job is to "provide," and he wants to retire early-- which he will be able to do. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don't know...just typing out where my brain always goes when I try to decide if I should just "get over it" or bring up the conversation. Being as we're this far in, you can tell what I usually choose.

[punishedsaints]

[dramsstuff]

if they wanna talk to you, they would. if they wanna be with you, they would. if they wanna make things work, they would. don’t ever let things be one sided, it’s not healthy nor fair for you.

[yours-trudy]

C'mon, baby, spill the tea.

[bleedingbirchtree]

people always act like I have high expectations for wanting my partner to be able to read me well enough to know when I'm shutting down or when I'm upset.... but at the same time I am always the one doing it for them..