life advice, anyone? please???
Honest question to anyone out there who has an answer to offer. I am trying to decide between two grad school programs, both neuroscience PhDs.
1) Solid program, my top lab choices aren’t really panning out mainly because of various funding/other obligation constraints on the PI side, but there are still a few options for labs. The program director is hugely supportive, and the program is in a place that I know I would enjoy living, I could be close to family, my SO likes more, and would give me much more financial peace of mind.
2) Really really good program, the science is awesome, my top choice PIs are panning out in addition to several very solid backup options. The program director is nowhere to be found and it seems like there are far fewer centralized checks on student progress. The program is in a location that would be juuust barely within my financial limits, where I could see myself tolerating/mildly enjoying the culture but not loving it, much further from family.
I am worried that if I spring for option 2, I will stretch myself so thin outside of being a grad student (finances, culture, distance from family) that I won’t have the bandwidth to be successful in school, despite the better science. A major factor in this is that I want to have kids in grad school and of course having family around would make that much easier. But on the other hand, if I pick option 1 and free up my bandwidth to fully focus on being a grad student, am I setting myself up for disappointment scientifically with way scarcer options for labs?